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All of your feelings are normal. Sometimes it's the ignoring them and trying to be strong that becomes too much.
People respond to things according to their viewpoint, we can't control that but we can examine how we feel about the choices they've made. I thought some people might show more compassion for me but perhaps that's because I would show it to them. We can grieve relationships lost or changed and the lives we wanted for ourselves and our loved ones. I'm happy for you to private message me if you'd like information on what therapy I've had xxx

Bless you - our journey is so hard with definitely life changing consequences for so many people. I could make such a long list of how my life has changed over the last four years. All down to what my son did.

But through that pain and darkness after time light does begin to slowly shine through. Your life takes a different path for sure and yes, the sadness and blips continue to arise, but you learn and just do your best to cope with it at that time.

i have fantastic crutches that support me, this forum & the friends I've made through it come top of that list. Good 'can' come out of bad ie. I was squeezed out my job and immediately I took on a part time job which I love. It's something I would never have even thought about before.

suppose I'm just trying to say sadso is don't give up, in a different way your life will reshape and you'll gradually move forward, but in a changed new way.

I understand. I think it remains continually on my mind on and off but I openly talk about our son + memories with my hubby which helps. He listens more than responds! Whereas one time it was all too much to talk about at all.

I easily lapse into stress mode, yest coming across our baby photo albums and only an hour ago seeing two police cars on out street..... but I give myself a good telling off..... and force myself to get back on track.