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Hi everyone. Not sure why I'm posting except I know I find everyone else's 'update' posts so comforting, and it's a lonely place on Planet Knock. I'm 4.5 months in, somewhat unbelievably, and every week something comes along to completely floor me. New disclosure from my husband, a passing comment from a friend, the OIC dropping by up return my work laptop...

My husband has agreed to move out and has signed a lease for a flat nearby. Honestly I don't know what the future holds but I can't make any decisions whilst still 'in the thick of it' with him here.

I need to discover who I am and let him discover who he is, then see where we are.

We agree that coparenting is our absolute priority, and we want to build the best possible framework for that.

I'm signed off work for another few weeks, but am starting to accept that this isnt a failure on my part. My job isn't one I can do on autopilot, and I did try to return a month or so ago.

It's an utterly miserable wet day here but the kids are at their Saturday activity, my husband and I have been for coffee and a bacon sandwich, and managed to chat about some normal stuff (jobs, the kids, what we want for lunch etc!) without any drama. This feels like progress.

AnxiousGirl the standard advice I keep getting is 'no big decisions for 12 months' and my brain is telling me all sorts - some of it hopeful, some sad, but I'm trying to be patient.
Like an addict I need to 'get clean' too - I'm still all caught up in his issues every day. Hoping I can get some clarity with time.
sending love to you xx

Eye thank you xx