Safety Plan
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Hi all, hope everyone's Mondays are going okay.
Im currently 18 weeks pregnant and have made a referral to children's social services to start the process. My OH was sentenced to 18 month's suspended 3 years ago for IIOC and has 7 years left on SOR. He's got a SHPO too but only online based, no contact restrictions so we currently live a very normal life.
We had a late miscarriage earlier this year at 21 weeks and the stress of SS didn't help. They were wanting to go straight to preproceedings despite me being aware of the risk, OH having done courses and lots of family aware and around to support us.
We are expecting social services to turn up randomly at any moment and want to get a more solid safety plan in place to show us being proactive. In an ideal world, we'd love it if my OH could stay at home with us but perhaps in a separate room with some measures in place to mitigate risk during the night.
Would anyone be willing to share what they have done / safety plans they have in place to help us navigate this extremely rocky road.
Thank you all x
Im currently 18 weeks pregnant and have made a referral to children's social services to start the process. My OH was sentenced to 18 month's suspended 3 years ago for IIOC and has 7 years left on SOR. He's got a SHPO too but only online based, no contact restrictions so we currently live a very normal life.
We had a late miscarriage earlier this year at 21 weeks and the stress of SS didn't help. They were wanting to go straight to preproceedings despite me being aware of the risk, OH having done courses and lots of family aware and around to support us.
We are expecting social services to turn up randomly at any moment and want to get a more solid safety plan in place to show us being proactive. In an ideal world, we'd love it if my OH could stay at home with us but perhaps in a separate room with some measures in place to mitigate risk during the night.
Would anyone be willing to share what they have done / safety plans they have in place to help us navigate this extremely rocky road.
Thank you all x
Hello lovely,
I'm so very glad to hear your news. I'll send you a private message with some things I'd be looking at doing in your situation.
Sending you lots of love xxx
I'm so very glad to hear your news. I'll send you a private message with some things I'd be looking at doing in your situation.
Sending you lots of love xxx
Thank you so much! xx
Congragulations on your pregnancy! I'm going to message you privately x
Ladies do you please also mind to share with me please ????
Hi Lastima,
I am in the midst of storm that is care proceedings, and am by no means of an expert but in my experience safety plan need to consider following points and must be tailor made for your family. Parents protect website has many videos/articles relating to this.
bedroom, sleeping arrangements
safe adults (informed family members in emergency)
privacy such as nudity at home and knocking doors
Internet restrictions/monitoring
Responsibility of personal care
In-house rules such as only dressed photographs of children to be taken
Arrangements for birthdays, parents evenings, sleepovers
Please add more if you can think of ?
I am in the midst of storm that is care proceedings, and am by no means of an expert but in my experience safety plan need to consider following points and must be tailor made for your family. Parents protect website has many videos/articles relating to this.
bedroom, sleeping arrangements
safe adults (informed family members in emergency)
privacy such as nudity at home and knocking doors
Internet restrictions/monitoring
Responsibility of personal care
In-house rules such as only dressed photographs of children to be taken
Arrangements for birthdays, parents evenings, sleepovers
Please add more if you can think of ?
In addition to Flowers plan mine contains a plan for as little one grows; pants work, books that are age appropriate but open up conversations such as my body belongs to me. How we will approach disclosure with our daughter and manage her emotional needs around that time. Much like Flower said about safe adults we have a network of trusted people that our daughter can talk to if she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me as she grows (predominantly thinking of those teenage years) xxx
Edited to add using anatomically correct terminology for body parts xxx
Edited to add using anatomically correct terminology for body parts xxx
Oh i see....I never have one! My OH moved out and social services close the case second day after arrest !