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Hi,

First post for me.
This is also my situation. Knock 20th August. Arrested for 1:1 conversation on KIK app with another adult. Subject of conversation involved fantasy involving a fantasy girl under 18. No sharing of IIOC in chat, no chat with under 18.
Waiting for devices to be checked for IIOC.
Not naive and know they may still find other things on device, but if not I have no idea where we stand.

Like everyone else, so many unknowns.

hope you're ok

Unfortunately this was my experience. My partner had a conversation online, with an adult porting to be the mother of a child. He was sentenced in 2022.

The charge will be very much dependent as to whether it was clear the chat was fantasy or role play. If it was explicitly clear that this was the case then the charge is likely to be for an obscene publication.

If it was not explicit that it was a fantasy or role play conversation, it will be treated as intent. My partner had a conversation was treated as the latter.

If you don't mind me asking what was the sentence he got?



OH had a fantasy conversation with another adult on KIK and when he was arrested the officer did say it was all just fantasy but still waiting on him being charged, which should be next year.

For me it feels like such a grey area. He 100% shouldn't have had the conversation and 100% the behaviour was inappropriate and should be addressed through rehabilitative programs and potentially punishments too. In the online world it's so easy to get caught up and say things you wouldn't dream of in reality, it feels messy. My person had many many conversations on the kink and BDSM forum. Many of the things by their nature were not even possible and some medically not even possible for him. He had one conversation, no images, no searches etc. But reading what I did of the transcript, it would be impossible for the police to decipher whether it was role play or whether there was intent.

Unfortunately my person received a 40 month sentence and life time SHPO and SOR. He served 20 and had been released now for 10 months. Little, if no, rehabilitative programs offered in or out of prison.

His sentence seems to he at the top end from what I've seen of others. Much of it will depend on the detail of the conversation - Age of child, the level of sexual abuse intended and whether there were arrangements to meet.

Trying to be brave.

I would take anything the police say with caution. My partner honestly thought nothing would come of it, his thoughts were: "I haven't actually done anything after all, surely I couldn't be charged just because I'd had a conversation online"

We weren't together when he recieved The Knock and I only found out about it when he was charged. Police were quite friendly, just said carry on as normal, so he did and oh how I wish he'd realised the seriousness. He's an intelligent man, but also autistic and took it at face value.

Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.