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Hey yes I get you, I'm more angry at the lack of information police give at the time of the knock and yes the no communication my knock was in May and still haven't heard anything just what the my husband has told me, I like to come on here to get a good idea of the process and yes it's a lengthy process indeed when you try not to think about it it does drive your thoughts mad, time dose feel like a drag but hang on in there xxx

Hi Hilltop

Yes I totally agree with you! It is just ridiculous how long these investigations take and the impact on our everyday life! The police just do not care!
I had a very bad experience with the police when they came to take our devices and then the next day when a police office came with a ss woman, both times I was treated appallingly and we have had no contact from them or any information for 17 month.

we are in Essex and I think it does vary from where you live as to the treatment you get.

I want to complain but am too scared to make things worse.

sending you best wishes

Mabel xx

Hi Hilltop,

I have much anger towards the police for many reasons. The first officer who came to take my statement when I reported my husband asked me if I really wanted to get my husband arrested "just for looking at a few pictures of kids". I was disgusted and threw him out. The third officer who came out, when I told him my husbands ideal woman is 18, slim, very attractive and with perfect big boobs, replied "the complete opposite of you then".

I've spoken to the detective who is dealing with the case many times and told him I cannot live in limbo indefinitely. That it is seriously affecting my mental health. He told me the investigation should be complete in approximately 3 months. I got a call 2 weeks ago (11 weeks in) and was told I will have a definite outcome in 3 weeks. So hopefully only another week and it'll all be over.

You could try contacting the police for an update? If you don't pester them, they will do nothing to move the case along.

Hi Mabel,

17 months?! That is shocking! As you say it does depend on the area you live in but almost a year and a half is disgraceful. I would certainly be calling them and asking for an update.

hi everyone

I couldn't agree more. I was told when the knock happened that our police force had set up a 'specialist unit' whose only task was to monitor, identify and arrest on-line offenders. Apparently this team of officers make 'the knock' almost on a daily basis. However, the experts required to forensically examine devices is 'short of staff' so there is a huge back log of devices to be looked at. It has been 8 months since the knock and the waiting is emotionally painful and exhausting. I don't know how families are meant to continue to function with no end in sight. It is particularly hard for me as my husband won't tell me what he has done. It is mental cruelty created by a disfunctional police system. If it is so imperative to identify offenders surely the same can be said about prosecuting them? I am amazed this hasn't been highlighted in the press but I guess it is because it is a taboo subject. Nevertheless families, including children, are being adversely effected which in turn can cause problems in the future for society. Individuals offend not entire families but they are being punished. One of the officers who came to my house couldn't stop sniggering when I said how devastating the whole process was going to be for me and other family members! Perhaps that's what they want!!!

Izzy,

im so sorry to hear that your husband won't even tell you what he has done. How devastating for you and your family. That alone is bad enough but for the police to snigger about the whole situation and not even keep you updated or offer you support is a disgrace.

Hi Hilltop

just wondering if you are any further forward? If I remember correctly our cases were similar. No further forward here, still waiting for outcome of investigation. X