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Unrelated police knock - heart is now racing!

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scaredstaffy

Member since
March 2024

14 posts

Posted Sun October 27, 2024 8:21pmReport post

So today we had a knock on the door from the police, completely unrelated to OHs ongoing investigation. They were wanting to talk to my step daughter, in relation to something going on with a friend of hers, no one was in trouble.

Problem is, my heart is now racing and I just want to cry, seeing police standing in my house again has just brought back all of those horrible memories of "the knock" back in March.

I've never been someone who was fearful of the police, and I can see them out and about and be fine. But in my house has just made me so shaky!

I'd been doing ok up until now, but feel like I've just taken a massive step backwards!

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1044 posts

Posted Sun October 27, 2024 9:09pmReport post

I think all of us can relate to this feeling. I saw something before that was basically a diagram of how progress works, it illustrated that we never go back to the lowest point. I think of it when I feel those feelings come rushing back. I allow myself time to sit with how I'm feeling and I've never been back to that place of crying on the kitchen floor so hard that I couldn't breathe. It's progress, it just doesn't always feel like it. This feeling will pass xxx

AnxiousGirl

Member since
December 2023

235 posts

Posted Sun October 27, 2024 10:59pmReport post

I had a robbery at my property as a direct result of my ex husbands case hitting the press. So I had the police at my house multiple times. Turns out it was my neighbours who is a prolific petty criminal. He was caught with my property in his house so I'm waiting for it to go to court.

This really is the gift that keeps on giving!

Saying that the police have been good if not a little slow. I know not everyone has a positive experience with the police but they have always been fine with me

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

323 posts

Posted Tue October 29, 2024 2:28pmReport post

I'm diagnosed with PTSD after the knock 7 years ago. I hate hearing the doorbell or phone ring. My bedroom was at the front of the house and I hated hearing cars pull up outside, so much so that I moved bedroom. X

LittleRobin3

Member since
April 2024

323 posts

Posted Tue October 29, 2024 2:30pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant,

Hi, for my son and I, we absolutely went back to our lowest point when our person was arrested for the 2nd time. It was truly awful. X

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2598 posts

Posted Tue October 29, 2024 5:32pmReport post

I hate seeing emergency vehicles incl police cars on our road. Just the sight of um... turns my stomach!

Lostandalone

Member since
September 2024

30 posts

Posted Tue October 29, 2024 5:46pmReport post

Anytime I see a police car or hear a siren I'm on edge - I'm thinking "what next?".

The gift that keeps giving.

scaredstaffy

Member since
March 2024

14 posts

Posted Wed October 30, 2024 9:09pmReport post

As horrible as it is knowing that many others feel the way that I do, it is also so reassuring to know that my feelings are "normal" (whatever normal is!)

Thank you all for being so open about your feelings too. It is such a support having people to share things with who really get it!

Sending hugs to everyone else who has been struggling x

Stan cat

Member since
October 2024

36 posts

Posted Wed October 30, 2024 9:31pmReport post

Horrible feeling I know every time I see police officer I think he knows what happened. He knows what's going on it's horrible.