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Those who found the images can you help??

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SakuraRain

Member since
October 2024

10 posts

Posted Thu October 31, 2024 10:26pmReport post

It's been two weeks since I found the videos on my now ex's laptop and reported him. And I am struggling. I miss him so much but he knew what the outcome would be when he went looking for it. So he made his choice and wanted to see it knowing it would break us and possibly have further ramifications for my life.

I am now struggling with seeing my nephew's because they are a similar ages to what I saw. I also volunteer with as a cub scout leader and went to a event two days ago where there were families supporting a local group fundraising. It was like torture for me. There was a little girl who looked like the one I'd seen in one of the video's - The video spoke a foreign language so it was not them but it was all I could see.

If you found the images how did you cope?? I am starting counselling next week but I need some advice in coping with this in the meantime. I haven't gone a day without seeing if in my head or hearing his voice admitting it.

My family are being supportive but we've never gone through anything like this before and I don't even know what I need for them to support me.

JustAboutHoldingItTogether

Member since
August 2024

23 posts

Posted Fri November 1, 2024 8:08amReport post

It's hard. Some of the images I found had children the same age as our children, so I understand the feelings. I keep replaying situations in my head and feeling disgusted.



I think you're on the right path, counselling will help. It will be good to talk things through and process them. You can always phone the helpline too.

LostAndTorn

Member since
November 2023

72 posts

Posted Fri November 1, 2024 9:50pmReport post

Hi, I found a hundreds of images, as well as written documents, in graphic detail, of him exposing himself to children at our local leisure centre, and it made me sick. I was having a lot of flashbacks, even in the most innocent of situations, and so I approached my local Wellbeing Service (via my GP/NHS) where I was assessed and diagnosed with PTSD. I was referred to a specialist therapist and underwent an extended course of EMDR treatment, which I've recently completed. It was a harrowing and upsetting process, having to relive everything, but it has definitely helped me deal with the images I was seeing in my mind. They'll never disappear, but at least the treament has now "filed" them into the correct part of my brain, and they're less vivid.

So, I'd suggest asking your local service if they can assess you for the same.

I hope you get the help you need. No-one should ever have these sickening images haunting them.

Edited Fri November 1, 2024 9:52pm