There is hope with social services
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Hi, to those that feel they are stuck and there is no light at the end of the tunnel with regards to husbands ect moving back home, there is and I feel like my story will give hope. Bit of a long one.
*Partner arrested Oct 2019 for 1 cat C image.
*Released under investigation, allowed to move back home with 2yr old and 9yr old.
*Re arrested Jan 2021 after phone had been searched and more that the 1 image was found. CAT A B & C, videos and images. Chat room communication asking for links ect and someone asked the age of our children and he wrote the ages and even mentioned he likes it when my daughter had friends sleep over(nit that he was ever home when she had them, he'd be working nights)
-second phone seized for investigation
*Oct 2023 - called into the station (2 cat c images on the second phone)
*court Feb 2024 - some how got a 2yr suspended sentence (still amazed, considering he searched more images whilst released under investigation!-2 cat C) -no media, again amazed as this would've been a good story considering he searched images again!
* social services involved Mar 2024. We built a good relationship, I needed to suck it up for the first few weeks as I felt defensive, had to kid myself that I liked her so I wouldn't be defensive but actually she was really nice and empathetic once I let my guard down to see her and listen to her. We did what was asked of us(we wanted to do the things regardless of professionals asking, she was great at signposting help I didn't know was avaliable, signed up the councilling, wait list for husband to do LFF therapy, signed up for CAMHS for children ect)
*Oct 2024, Child in Need closed and he has moved back home. (all of the above we are still on waiting lists for)
We've done a lot as a couple to get through all of the above, including me understandjng more about his past and his mental health.
But yes, after all of the above he is home.
Deep breaths, there is hope, try to relax and see them as helping you to get to your end goal, remember if you feel your sw is not moving you forward you can request a new one, your situation shouldn't become stagnant, there should be a plan that keeps you moving to your end goal.
I hope this helped at least one person to feel more hopeful within the darkness that this situation brings.
Lots of Love x
*Partner arrested Oct 2019 for 1 cat C image.
*Released under investigation, allowed to move back home with 2yr old and 9yr old.
*Re arrested Jan 2021 after phone had been searched and more that the 1 image was found. CAT A B & C, videos and images. Chat room communication asking for links ect and someone asked the age of our children and he wrote the ages and even mentioned he likes it when my daughter had friends sleep over(nit that he was ever home when she had them, he'd be working nights)
-second phone seized for investigation
*Oct 2023 - called into the station (2 cat c images on the second phone)
*court Feb 2024 - some how got a 2yr suspended sentence (still amazed, considering he searched more images whilst released under investigation!-2 cat C) -no media, again amazed as this would've been a good story considering he searched images again!
* social services involved Mar 2024. We built a good relationship, I needed to suck it up for the first few weeks as I felt defensive, had to kid myself that I liked her so I wouldn't be defensive but actually she was really nice and empathetic once I let my guard down to see her and listen to her. We did what was asked of us(we wanted to do the things regardless of professionals asking, she was great at signposting help I didn't know was avaliable, signed up the councilling, wait list for husband to do LFF therapy, signed up for CAMHS for children ect)
*Oct 2024, Child in Need closed and he has moved back home. (all of the above we are still on waiting lists for)
We've done a lot as a couple to get through all of the above, including me understandjng more about his past and his mental health.
But yes, after all of the above he is home.
Deep breaths, there is hope, try to relax and see them as helping you to get to your end goal, remember if you feel your sw is not moving you forward you can request a new one, your situation shouldn't become stagnant, there should be a plan that keeps you moving to your end goal.
I hope this helped at least one person to feel more hopeful within the darkness that this situation brings.
Lots of Love x