My husband has been made to leave home
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Hi, Im just looking for some advice really. Ill try to keep this short but ill start at the beginning. I have been with my husband for 4 years, i have 2 older children with my ex partner and me and my current partner have a child and i am 20 weeks pregnant with our second.
2 years ago my partner was arrested for pocession of indecent images of children, he was then charged and sentenced to a suspended sentence, probation and unpaid work. Social services conducted all their investigations deemed him to be little to no risk too the children and all was agreed he could come home with a safety plan in place (no unsupervised contact, he wasnt to change or bath the children and all that kind of thing) we have listened and obliged by the rules and he moved in. However when he moved from his old address he had to change probation workers and from the very first meeting neither of them got on. The probation worker was continuously phoning social services requesting another assessment as he didnt agree with their decision. I know this because social services rang every other week and told me and in the end eventually told him he had to stop calling as they had no concerns, the safety plan was in place and they was more than happy with the way things were. However his probation worker then phoned his jigsaw manager and asked for them to visit the home to conduct a visit which they did. They searched his phone and see that he had been watching porn, on a legal site. His search had shown he had watched some 'close to the mark pornogrophy' including things phrased as first time and things, but upon conversations he said he hadnt searched them he had just clicked video to video from the home page. Anyway they wasnt happy with this and contacted social services to inform them and they ended up coming back out and have told him he has to leave the family home as they believe he still has a 'sexual preference to children'. They have conducted a section 47 and stated that he is to only have supervised contact with our child and none with my older two (even though they have been asking for him) and only my mum can supervise this, they have refused to allow any of his family to supervise. They also said i cannot supervise which im unsure as to why considering i have done everything they have asked of me and more. I myself have arranged to go on various courses to help me understand and further protect my children which is the end goal but i strongly feel although their concerns are completely valid that they're being slightly unfair in not allowing me to supervise his contact with our daughter.
My question however is will it be possible for me to change their mind about my capability to protect my children? Will they change their mind on him being allowed home? He too is going on various courses which he has arranged off of his own back. Both his jigsaw manager and his old probation worker who is now back with have stated how this decision is slightly unfair and legally he's done nothing wrong. As i said i completely understand and validate their concerns, id just like to know if there is any hope in changing their mind. Thankyou
2 years ago my partner was arrested for pocession of indecent images of children, he was then charged and sentenced to a suspended sentence, probation and unpaid work. Social services conducted all their investigations deemed him to be little to no risk too the children and all was agreed he could come home with a safety plan in place (no unsupervised contact, he wasnt to change or bath the children and all that kind of thing) we have listened and obliged by the rules and he moved in. However when he moved from his old address he had to change probation workers and from the very first meeting neither of them got on. The probation worker was continuously phoning social services requesting another assessment as he didnt agree with their decision. I know this because social services rang every other week and told me and in the end eventually told him he had to stop calling as they had no concerns, the safety plan was in place and they was more than happy with the way things were. However his probation worker then phoned his jigsaw manager and asked for them to visit the home to conduct a visit which they did. They searched his phone and see that he had been watching porn, on a legal site. His search had shown he had watched some 'close to the mark pornogrophy' including things phrased as first time and things, but upon conversations he said he hadnt searched them he had just clicked video to video from the home page. Anyway they wasnt happy with this and contacted social services to inform them and they ended up coming back out and have told him he has to leave the family home as they believe he still has a 'sexual preference to children'. They have conducted a section 47 and stated that he is to only have supervised contact with our child and none with my older two (even though they have been asking for him) and only my mum can supervise this, they have refused to allow any of his family to supervise. They also said i cannot supervise which im unsure as to why considering i have done everything they have asked of me and more. I myself have arranged to go on various courses to help me understand and further protect my children which is the end goal but i strongly feel although their concerns are completely valid that they're being slightly unfair in not allowing me to supervise his contact with our daughter.
My question however is will it be possible for me to change their mind about my capability to protect my children? Will they change their mind on him being allowed home? He too is going on various courses which he has arranged off of his own back. Both his jigsaw manager and his old probation worker who is now back with have stated how this decision is slightly unfair and legally he's done nothing wrong. As i said i completely understand and validate their concerns, id just like to know if there is any hope in changing their mind. Thankyou
Was it on kik? Was he accused of disturbrution?
I am so angry with your husband on your behalf and angry with him even if you aren't. I don't know why it is so difficult for men, who has SHPO in place, who are registered sex offenders, who claim no attraction to children, but watched their partner and children go through hell with social services because of their actions to simply stop watching porn all together. I don't get it. I really don't. I appericiate he did not reoffend but you are now pregnant and alone.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this during your pregnancy. I have no advise but I sincerely wish you all the best with SS and I hope he can come home and be there for you all.
I'm sorry you are dealing with this during your pregnancy. I have no advise but I sincerely wish you all the best with SS and I hope he can come home and be there for you all.
I am so sorry. This must be so devastating. I would talk to your husband about giving up all pornography. There are 12-step programs that can help.
First up I was extremely angry with him when I first found out but I've calmed down and i sort of get his point although have made it perfectly clear there is to be no more and he's agreed. He doesn't have an addiction but being pregnant with children, finding time for "us" just wasn't priority but we have spoken and yeah that's all sorted now I just want to move on from it all now.
No there was no distribution it was just images downloaded into his icloud account but deleted immediately. Not that that makes it ok in the slightest.
No there was no distribution it was just images downloaded into his icloud account but deleted immediately. Not that that makes it ok in the slightest.