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Hello.
I've been reading the forums for some time but first post.
I'm wondering if, after the support intervention, they are truly able to move forward from this and not feel the need to look at these images?
I'm guessing it's an ongoing process just like any addiction.
I've read a few posts where there has been a repeat incident but not seen anything where they've turned their life around.
I've been reading the forums for some time but first post.
I'm wondering if, after the support intervention, they are truly able to move forward from this and not feel the need to look at these images?
I'm guessing it's an ongoing process just like any addiction.
I've read a few posts where there has been a repeat incident but not seen anything where they've turned their life around.
Hi,
we aren't at the end of the SHPO or SOR as yet but my partner has completed the horizon course and his hours with probation. He has chosen to abstain from all pornography as he identified that as an issue for him. He has talking therapy regularly, has completed the engage plus course with LFF and has adopted many positive changes to help him improve his mental health. His visor said on his last meeting that they don't believe he will ever reoffend. He has police monitoring software on all devices and we plan to install our own once his SHPO ends as an added layer of accountability for him.
I think we don't hear many success stories on here as people move on with their lives so it would be good to see people contributing to this who are out the other side and their person has turned their life around. I believe that as with every addiction there will be a battle to be fought but open communication is essential in managing this xxx
we aren't at the end of the SHPO or SOR as yet but my partner has completed the horizon course and his hours with probation. He has chosen to abstain from all pornography as he identified that as an issue for him. He has talking therapy regularly, has completed the engage plus course with LFF and has adopted many positive changes to help him improve his mental health. His visor said on his last meeting that they don't believe he will ever reoffend. He has police monitoring software on all devices and we plan to install our own once his SHPO ends as an added layer of accountability for him.
I think we don't hear many success stories on here as people move on with their lives so it would be good to see people contributing to this who are out the other side and their person has turned their life around. I believe that as with every addiction there will be a battle to be fought but open communication is essential in managing this xxx
Thank you for sharing. The forum, whilst a source of comfort can also be very daunting and I understand that people move on particularly if there is a successful outcome but it would be good to hear of any longer term success - I just feel that there must be some hope that it can all be managed particularly if the root cause is addressed.
I believe in my situation this has had to happen to us to give my husband the wake up call he needed . I truly believe he will not be going on any more chat rooms ever again he has realised what he could of lost and I believe this is enough to stop it happening again xx
My son was sentenced a year ago for communication charges. He's been through private therapy, a LFF course and is currently on the Horizon course. A day or two before the anniversary of his arrest I asked him how he felt that day compared to how he felt before he was ever arrested. His answer was that he now feels happy and content with his far simpler lifestyle. He lost everything during the years between his arrest and sentencing, his marriage, his job, his home and his family life, but he's now in a better place psychologically than he'd been for many years.
I'm feeling very positive about the fact that he won't ever be visiting a chat site again.
I'm feeling very positive about the fact that he won't ever be visiting a chat site again.
I believe that that this was the wake up call that my OH needed, as he told his visor that a couple of months before the knock he was thinking of stopping downloading porn. I wish he had then he probably wouldn't have been in the situation we are in. I believe that he won't go back to it x
An addiction to porn for my oh has brought us to this situation he has never looked at porn since and said he would never again as dawn said it was the wake up call he needed
My ex reoffended. He'll always reoffend.
I believe the experience of his loss and the knowledge of the family devastation and a long custodial sentence will be enough to deter my son from reoffending. Plus now on a treatment plan his journey is being unpicked stage by stage in therapy. He is hopefully beginning to understand his triggers and redirections he 'could' have took/help he 'could' have seeked..
As with anything in life there's no guarantees and I carn't predict what the future holds. But as I see the situation right now I am very confident he will rehabilitate and not reoffend.
As with anything in life there's no guarantees and I carn't predict what the future holds. But as I see the situation right now I am very confident he will rehabilitate and not reoffend.
I found this article, which references this website and forum, very comforting in terms of what the future might hold.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/jul/27/husband-viewing-child-abuse-images?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/jul/27/husband-viewing-child-abuse-images?CMP=Share_iOSApp_Other
A very thought provoking read - Exausted.....
That's was a difficult but also kind of uplifting read. I think it is possible for relationships to come out stronger from this. Does require a lot of difficult soul-searching though. Thanks for sharing.
What an emotional read, the day of the knock came flooding back in to my mind ,to be honest it is never far from my thoughts or the day in court for my sons sentancing ;-( xx
Not a nice read and could have been written about what happened in our family.
What I cannot get past us why my husband was looking at porn in the first place. I used to think what was wrong with me or why wasn't I enough.
But then I began to think how disrespectful it was that he was doing it whilst I was asleep in the house. Did I want to stay with a person who would do that?
For his addiction to gratification he has ruined his life. But he isn't going to ruin mine too.
I ended our long marriage and an trying to carve out a new life for myself
I did think firvacehije that we could work it out and come out stronger. But I now feel that his offending will never ever go away and I didn't want that hanging over me
What I cannot get past us why my husband was looking at porn in the first place. I used to think what was wrong with me or why wasn't I enough.
But then I began to think how disrespectful it was that he was doing it whilst I was asleep in the house. Did I want to stay with a person who would do that?
For his addiction to gratification he has ruined his life. But he isn't going to ruin mine too.
I ended our long marriage and an trying to carve out a new life for myself
I did think firvacehije that we could work it out and come out stronger. But I now feel that his offending will never ever go away and I didn't want that hanging over me