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LFF and Safer Lives etc

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LosingIt

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September 2024

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Posted Thu November 14, 2024 8:36pmReport post

Is it worth doing both Safer Lives and LFF. Or would it be better to do one and then get a weekly therapist?

Lostandalone

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September 2024

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Posted Fri November 15, 2024 10:33pmReport post

Bumping because I'm interested if anyone has any input on your question!

LosingIt

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September 2024

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Posted Sat November 16, 2024 10:39amReport post

Thanks! My person has started Safer Lives off his own steam, just wondering if LFF is quite similar. In which case individual therapy might be a better addition. Don't have the money to do everything.

I can definitely recommend Safer Lives based on what he's reported back. It's really helping work through aspects of childhood and young adulthood trauma he didn't address before.

Edited Sat November 16, 2024 10:42am

Exhausted

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August 2024

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Posted Sat November 16, 2024 7:55pmReport post

My husband has done safer lives and he found it really helpful; they seem very good, and I think they mainly come from a probation background so they're very well informed from that point of view. He found them very positive in terms of building a new and better life beyond what has happened.
He also sees a private therapist he found through stopSO. this is obviously more bespoke to him and although it's super challenging, it's very valuable. He's found doing the two things together difficult but useful; it's expensive clearly but he sought it all out himself and it's a good sign to me that he's engaging in being a better person and understanding himself.
His solicitor was very pleased he'd done all this off his own back, and said it's much easier to help people who have done so. He seemed to think there wasn't a great deal of value in doing the LFF course as well, and nor did my husbands private therapist, but it might be worth speaking to the helpline to see what their course consists of exactly to help you decide what's right for you.



sending love x

LosingIt

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September 2024

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Posted Sun November 17, 2024 1:47pmReport post

Thank you so much. That's really helpful.x

Ocean

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September 2023

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Posted Sun November 17, 2024 9:12pmReport post

My person did LFF and also had weekly face to face sessions with a private therapist. He found the mixture of the two life changing. Between the two he was able to identify why he did what he did, to work on the identified issues and develop better, safer and more positive ways of thinking and behaving.

LosingIt

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September 2024

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Posted Sun November 17, 2024 9:44pmReport post

Thank you both. I agree, Safer Lives seems to have had a positive effect on him after just a few sessions.