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Bub84

Member since
January 2024

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Posted Sat November 16, 2024 9:30amReport post

Morning everyone, I'm just putting my safety plan together to give to social service regarding contact at home between my OH and our children. Could anyone give me some advice of what to include.

Thank you

Xx

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November 2020

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Posted Sat November 16, 2024 2:02pmReport post

Hi,

in the family and children section there is a pinned post from LFF with some information about safety plans. It's worth a read. Mine includes no unsupervised contact, no personal care and how I'll teach our toddler about privacy and pants work. We always knock on bedroom doors to make sure it's ok to enter. As our daughter grows there are things in the plan to prepare for issues or questions that may come up, resources that I plan to use for opening up conversations to allow for disclosure of dads offending and also ones that allow us to keep an open dialogue should anyone behave inappropriately towards her both online or in person.

As she is a toddler currently the supervised contact mitigates the need for most of the other things I'd include if she was older or unsupervised so your plan needs to reflect your children's age, development level and also if they have an understanding of what your OH has been accused of. If she was older and would perhaps kick up a fuss if anything happened that meant I was called away from the home whilst contact was happening then I'd probably have someone on standby to come and sit with her or my partner would come with me if she's old enough to be left. It's things like that, what is the plan for emergencies. What measures are in place for use of devices by all family members? Are there any issues that would make sticking to the safety plan challenging? xxx