Social Services and supervised access
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Hello,
Until now I've not allowed any contact between my OH and the children which meant social services closed the case pretty quickly. I'm not saying I will allow it, but what happens in the future if we do go down the route of supervised visits? Would the children then automatically be on social services radar?
Would it incur a lot of work for me e.g. SS visits, scrutiny, parenting courses because I honestly just don't have the time for that and don't want to be under scrutiny, just so he can have contact.
It just seems like it might be a lot of hassle for me and thw children which this whole thing has been from start to finish anyway, even though I've done nothing wrong.
And my children have come to a place where they aren't as bothered about him anymore, but I know if it was possible they probably would want some sort of relationship. The case if now with CPS and awaits court probably early in the new year. So I wouldn't make a decision until after this anyway.
Any help/advice/experiences greatly welcomed.
Until now I've not allowed any contact between my OH and the children which meant social services closed the case pretty quickly. I'm not saying I will allow it, but what happens in the future if we do go down the route of supervised visits? Would the children then automatically be on social services radar?
Would it incur a lot of work for me e.g. SS visits, scrutiny, parenting courses because I honestly just don't have the time for that and don't want to be under scrutiny, just so he can have contact.
It just seems like it might be a lot of hassle for me and thw children which this whole thing has been from start to finish anyway, even though I've done nothing wrong.
And my children have come to a place where they aren't as bothered about him anymore, but I know if it was possible they probably would want some sort of relationship. The case if now with CPS and awaits court probably early in the new year. So I wouldn't make a decision until after this anyway.
Any help/advice/experiences greatly welcomed.
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Hi,
It's likely that ss would be informed of the result of sentencing and will make contact with you just to check that you're aware of the outcome and verify that you are still happy with no contact.
Nobody can really say if ss will give you a hard time if you change your mind on contact. From my own experience it went in my favour that I'd ended the relationship and that initially contact was supervised by myself alongside members of his family. Supervision by someone you trust might be an idea to reduce the stress on you.
Depending on their age and understanding reintroducing contact once they've got their heads around not seeing him might be detrimental so this will need consideration by ss and will likely form part of their decision. Did you initially tell them that they would be no contact until after court proceedings or permanently? xxx
It's likely that ss would be informed of the result of sentencing and will make contact with you just to check that you're aware of the outcome and verify that you are still happy with no contact.
Nobody can really say if ss will give you a hard time if you change your mind on contact. From my own experience it went in my favour that I'd ended the relationship and that initially contact was supervised by myself alongside members of his family. Supervision by someone you trust might be an idea to reduce the stress on you.
Depending on their age and understanding reintroducing contact once they've got their heads around not seeing him might be detrimental so this will need consideration by ss and will likely form part of their decision. Did you initially tell them that they would be no contact until after court proceedings or permanently? xxx