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Does this mean he's a "p"

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tryingtogetitright2024

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July 2024

38 posts

Posted Sun November 17, 2024 5:01pmReport post

Hi all,

I am 10 months post knock. Magistrates was last week and it made the local paper last week. It's been a horrendous week now everyone knows.

I have accepted my persons wrong doing but have never considered him a "p" ( I know that word is not liked here). He has told me he has no attraction to children. Now it's public everyone has an opinion and I've been told by loads of people that of course he's a "p" and I'm struggling to get my head around it all.

I'm struggling anyway by that label is just horrible.

What are people thoughts? Ca. You view images and videos and not being a .......?



Thank you xxx

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2596 posts

Posted Sun November 17, 2024 7:03pmReport post

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PrairieMom

Member since
May 2024

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Posted Sun November 17, 2024 8:26pmReport post

I think you need to think of it as a spectrum. On one end there a person who is only attracted to children. On the other end is someone who is aroused by pictures/videos but primarily attracted to the same age and is no risk for contact offenses. They can both be diagnosed as "p".

Of course I'm not talking about those on here whose person accidently came across one image and deleted it.

If a boy is molested or exposed to sexual behaviors earlier than they should be, sometimes that can leave an imprint. It is not uncommon for men to be viewing material that mimics their abuse, or as a way to "relive their youth". There are other pathways to, like using sex to cope with unwanted feelings and seeking new/novel/high risk porn.

Let's not divide our community by who is "worse". There is hope for anyone who wants to rehabilitate and lead a life free of offending

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

792 posts

Posted Sun November 17, 2024 8:28pmReport post

I know it's easier said than done, but try to ignore what other people are saying. There are a range of reasons why our people do what they do.

What has your person done to help them gain insight into why they did what they did? If they are talking about loneliness, insecurity, dislike of themselves, lack of self esteem, impulsivity, porn addiction etc, then it's very likely that this along with their poor decision were the contributing factors into their offending.

Once your person has gained insight into their offending behaviour they can start work on learning better, safer and more healthy ways of dealing with whatever led them to offend in the first place.

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2596 posts

Posted Mon November 18, 2024 4:18amReport post

I strongly agree whatever crime, or whatever the severity of the crime our persons have committed, we remain as one, supporting each other through this horrible journey.

Edited Mon November 18, 2024 4:19am