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Member since
November 2019

7 posts

Posted Mon November 25, 2019 6:02pmReport post

So my ex has been convicted of possession and distribution of both images and videos.

He now wants me to allow contact with my son. He is 4 years old and is vulnerable. He does not communicate and is very delayed. Hes dad said he will take me to court to gain access he knows it is to be supervised. Where do I stand with this? I am not sure if I want him to because he has never told me why he was looking at that stuff to begin with. Will he be granted access even if I don't want him too? He has said he has seeked legal advice and they have said he legally is allowed supervised access. He use to be the main caring parent before this as I was the breadwinner. My son cant say yes or no to whether he wants to see him or not. The last thing I want is to be in another courtroom.. if he is going to be granted access whether I agree or not I would rather it be on my terms rather than someone telling me how long I have to allow if that makes any sense at all. Any advice would be helpful

Thankyou

Becky

Member since
May 2019

48 posts

Posted Mon November 25, 2019 9:00pmReport post

Hi the only thing I can possibly suggest is to seek legal advice. You say that you are unsure?. Similar to you my ex was also the main carer for my children. I understand that it is difficult to allow your child access if you do not know why he offended in the first place. If you are on speaking terms maybe ask him to everything? I would also reccomend bringing the helpline. I found them extremely helpful in advising me when it came to contact with my children.

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Mon November 25, 2019 10:04pmReport post

Hi

Have SS said anything? It may be that they would have an opinion on this and it does seem, unfortunately, that they try to split families up and would prefer the relationship to stop.

If you feel it's best for your child in the long term then maybe speak to them but please try and keep emotions out of this decisions

Good luck xx