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D1286

Member since
November 2019

62 posts

Posted Thu November 28, 2019 10:10amReport post

Hi everyone only just found these forums so bare with me. My husband was arrested for iioc September last year and had his second interview yesterday. He still hasn't been charged but we are waiting for the CPS to charge him and the court date. Weve had several conversations on why he did look at iioc and he said he's addicted to porn. I've had multiple emotions but the newest one is can I ever trust him again and if not should I get divorced. Has anyone else got through this or advice on how to feel.

Help please I'm going crazy

Seamack

Member since
August 2019

41 posts

Posted Thu November 28, 2019 10:25amReport post

Hi

I'm sorry you've had to join the forum but you've come to the right place to get support. Nobody can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel. We are all different and will experience many different emotions. It's all normal Only you will be able to decide if you will ever be able to trust him again. Perhaps try ringing the helpline, I called them a few days ago and they were brilliant. They can listen to you and give you advice on any help or support that may help you cope with this horrible situation you are in. You are not alone. Sending you a hug ???? x

SallyBlue

Member since
March 2019

252 posts

Posted Thu November 28, 2019 3:40pmReport post

Porn addiction, although barely recognised by the community or even some medical professionals is a difficult thing to combat. Sex is everywhere! Some of those with the addiction go down the wrong path. They keep needing more and more but where can it stop? The help line is fantastic for you and your husband. There is also SAA meetings he can attend or online support too.

No one can tell you what to do or how to feel. Its raw at the moment but in time you will know how you feel. There were days I wanted to punch my husband for the same offence, days I just loved him so much. It took a while to get where we are now. We are almost 5 years in from his arrest and we are still married. I love him dearly but there are days still where I could hit him with a fridge! If you ever need to talk I'm here x

D1286

Member since
November 2019

62 posts

Posted Thu November 28, 2019 5:46pmReport post

Thank you so much this is really helpful

Tutleymutley

Member since
November 2019

104 posts

Posted Fri November 29, 2019 12:09pmReport post

Thank you from me too. We received that Dawn visit from the police just three long days ago. It’s all a bit fresh and I’m reeling. I will read on. I’m so pleased to discover this forum.