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Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

285 posts

Posted Mon December 2, 2024 11:12amReport post

I have been plodding along with life, February and the conviction is spent... life has been pretty normal until Friday we put the tree up it gave me massive ptsd all I can see is the officers in the house again, ita crazy how things can come racing back will it ever leave us

Lucy from Stop it Now!

Member since
September 2018

517 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 1:03pmReport post

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Ted

Member since
January 2024

11 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 1:13pmReport post

I am feeling the same the knock was over the Christmas and I am really struggling with Christmas this year I am trying so hard for my kids but everyday I wake up with this horrible feeling not sure if Christmas will ever feel the same again wishing you the best Christmas you can have

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

148 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 1:28pmReport post

You totally have my empathy, I had a delivery driver come to the door the other day and shone a torch into the hall, just like the police did that awful morning nearly three years ago. It was horrible, instant PTSD.
We were lucky in a way it wasn't Christmas when it happened, but even so I have to say this is the 3rd Christmas I again feel no joy (still awaiting charges) and we are just going through the motions of getting through it. Christmas hasn't been the same since, but I am hoping it will be enjoyable again one day in the future.
Big hugs to you X

CC2114

Member since
November 2022

14 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 6:03pmReport post

My OH was sentenced to 6 mths last week and even though we don't have children, I am dreading Christmas this year.
I have always loved Christmas and not having him to celebrate with and the thought that he will be in prison on Xmas day kills me. It never was gonna be easy but this time of year seems hard. We also wasn't prepared as we were told he was likely to get a suspended sentence. I be honest, I be glad with the festive season is over and I never thought I would say that before this x

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

148 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 6:13pmReport post

That is so tough CC, hope you are doing ok. An unexpected custodial sentence must be so hard to deal with. Thinking of you and hoping for your sake the 6 months goes quickly X