Social services don’t like Safety plan
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I was told last week by my social worker that he doesn't like my safety plan. I wrote it under the advice of a stop it now Scotland advisor. I covered absolutely everything I could, including a safe word. He told me it was in no way sufficient and that he had genuine concerns surrounding it. This is what I included (my kids are teenagers)
Who is aware of charges and conditions. Who is support myself and the children. Who the plan protects. Who keeps them safe. Safe word (not noted but advised who knows it. OH doesn't know it obviously). How I keep them safe. Who visits home (No under 18s). Who deals with school (kids walk themselves and I have always dealt with the school even before this happened). Daily life (who does what). Online safety for the kids. Who lives at home (under bail conditions set by court OH must stay at the property) I even have a copy of the bail conditions for them too.
My OH has only been to court to move from police bail to court bail. He was arrested March this year. Court bail was set April.
Have I missed anything? I'm really confused as to why they think it's not good enough. Especially as they have never looked at it
Who is aware of charges and conditions. Who is support myself and the children. Who the plan protects. Who keeps them safe. Safe word (not noted but advised who knows it. OH doesn't know it obviously). How I keep them safe. Who visits home (No under 18s). Who deals with school (kids walk themselves and I have always dealt with the school even before this happened). Daily life (who does what). Online safety for the kids. Who lives at home (under bail conditions set by court OH must stay at the property) I even have a copy of the bail conditions for them too.
My OH has only been to court to move from police bail to court bail. He was arrested March this year. Court bail was set April.
Have I missed anything? I'm really confused as to why they think it's not good enough. Especially as they have never looked at it
Hi,
are your children aware of what has happened? Do bail conditions mention no unsupervised contact if they do I'd likely mention that. As your OH has to stay in the family home I'd probably include sleeping arrangements and anything in place for while you're asleep. You could put in about everyone being appropriately dressed to move around the house and even set up a camera on the landing to satisfy them that OH doesn't enter the children's bedrooms. What happens in an emergency situation? It may be easier if developmentally appropriate for the kids to be in the house alone if you are called away, OH leaves house or comes with you until alternative arrangements can be made xx
are your children aware of what has happened? Do bail conditions mention no unsupervised contact if they do I'd likely mention that. As your OH has to stay in the family home I'd probably include sleeping arrangements and anything in place for while you're asleep. You could put in about everyone being appropriately dressed to move around the house and even set up a camera on the landing to satisfy them that OH doesn't enter the children's bedrooms. What happens in an emergency situation? It may be easier if developmentally appropriate for the kids to be in the house alone if you are called away, OH leaves house or comes with you until alternative arrangements can be made xx
I will add your suggestions. I have already put emergency situations on the plan. It just angers me that they have never laid eyes on the plan yet they have issues with it.
Can you just message the SW asking which parts of the plan he's not happy with? Even ask for direct quotes from what you wrote that aren't good enough in his opinion so you can rethink them. Clearly he won't be able to as he's not seen the plan but let him admit that. It's atrocious that he's dismissing it without even seeing it and he needs to explain how he's come to his 'not good enough' decision.
PS The extra ideas are great too!
PS The extra ideas are great too!
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