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So after 4 months of no contact, I took the plunge today. It was strange, I had news to tell him which I did. Unsure what to do, feel or think. Confused. I still cannot accept that he has done anything wrong. Am I deluded? Really do not know what to think except I love him.
I must add, my children were not with me, nor would they ever be unless if came back as NFA. I love him but I love my kids more. So hard.
Partner, I'm glad you have done that, it seemed the right time for you
How was he and how has he been getting on??
I hope you feel better about it at the moment, you don't need to make any life changing decisions yet, how was he with you?
Well done xx
How was he and how has he been getting on??
I hope you feel better about it at the moment, you don't need to make any life changing decisions yet, how was he with you?
Well done xx
We didn't really have time to chat too much about his arrest as we had other things to discuss which we did. It felt like nothing had happened and that we'd seen each other only yesterday. He seemed okay. He has had some changes, but in the whole okay. I'd like to see him again to discuss the charges themselves. I think at that point I'll make a decision about our future. Unless found NFA action I know he couldn't have a future in my children's lives. Still very confused, but I know I made the right decision. Thank you for your replies. I want to stand by him, but I think that will depend on the truth from him. I am still absolutely sure that he was of no risk to my daughter. The police believe this also.
Hi Partner, I hope you found some comfort from seeing him? I've not seen my husband since it happened. I want to but don't want to at the same time. He's not local so it will take planning, he has to leave for both our safely, due to vigilantes. I'm thinking maybe with a councillor when he's more mentally stable as he is clearly struggling and having therapy. This waiting is awful, and like you I hope for NFA. Clearly though there is something wrong. Hopefully not as bad as vigilantes make out!
take care of yourself, and also love to everyone else struggling with this dreadful situation we find ourselves in.xx
take care of yourself, and also love to everyone else struggling with this dreadful situation we find ourselves in.xx
Tabs I totally understand the should I, shouldn't I questions. I still feel it a little bit. I have had comfort from seeing him. But it has shown me that my feelings for him are still strong. I suppose I've moved from the absolutely no contact him and leave viewpoint. To the yes, maybe I will be standing by this man. But as yet, I'm undecided. I feel for you tabs. It's hard when you know they are suffering. These vigilante groups are evil. Look after yourself and I pray for NFA for you xx
If I see my ex partner over Xmas, without my children present, would that affect the investigation? I don't intend to let my children see him until found NFA or if charged not at all. Would social services become involved again despite my kids having nothing to do with him? Do I have to inform someone if I chose this?
Partner,
So pleased you made the right decision for you and that it has benefited you. I hope you are feeling a bit better and can eventually get the answers to your questions which you deserve.
Sending a hug your way. Xxx
So pleased you made the right decision for you and that it has benefited you. I hope you are feeling a bit better and can eventually get the answers to your questions which you deserve.
Sending a hug your way. Xxx
Thank you.
I've had advice, I know what can and can't be done, am aware of what the future may or may not entail. But, my decision is made. I think your all amazing. Love to you all.x
I've had advice, I know what can and can't be done, am aware of what the future may or may not entail. But, my decision is made. I think your all amazing. Love to you all.x