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MumofTwo

Member since
December 2024

17 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 9:26amReport post

The knock came a week ago.

I supported my husband throughout ups and downs. He has bipolar disorder. Had community order for historical downloads 8 years ago. 1 year in prison for fraud 6 years ago.

Now this again. Downloading and distribution.

I feel like such a fool. I have noone. It's only me and my two little kids.

I lost friends in the past because I stood by him. Both my kids had birthdays in prison with him.

When he was taken he said 'Love you, honey' as if nothing happened.

Now charged. Remanded in custody. I can't breathe.

I told one person I considered a friend and was immediately cut off. Told I should have disclosed safeguarding issues to them. How do you even disclose historical spent convictions to a relatively new friend?

He promised. He lied.

My children are heartbroken and I cut off all contact with him. I can't keep going through this. My poor children don't deserve this.

He was the love of my life. Two pieces of one soul. Completing each others sentences and a perfect team. Devoted dad. 17 years together. Married for 12.

What a joke.

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1043 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 11:29amReport post

Hi,

I'm sorry you're going through this and that you have been cut off by your friend. Like yourself I would cut contact if my partner was to offend again. I wouldn't consider you a fool at all, the decision to support is never one taken lightly. I would say that he is the fool to have offended again and lost his family.
We are all here for you, continue to reach out and perhaps contact the helpline. There is a charity called children seen and heard for support for children with a parent in prison. They may be able to offer support and advice on what to say to the children and how to get them through this situation with the least psychological impact xxx

sadso

Member since
December 2023

97 posts

Posted Mon December 9, 2024 12:25pmReport post

sorry this is happening to you, maybe time to put yourself first and the kids if he shows so much lack of respect for putting you through all that there is no way me or my family would be able to go through all of that for a second time the damage it caused first time around is still here and painful do what's right for you xxx

MumofTwo

Member since
December 2024

17 posts

Posted Tue December 10, 2024 12:58pmReport post

Thank you. I'm trying. It's so hard to even breathe right now.