My son was sentenced last week
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My son got the knock two and a half years ago and he was in court last week. He was sentenced to 27 months, they are saying his release date will be January 2026.
I am really not coping well with it at all.
In the two years since the knock he has completely rehabilitated himself, he has done every course possible and speaks to a therapist once a fortnight, they are like friends now. He hates himself for viewing the images and he will never do it again. He has turned into a beautiful young man who is kind and considerate and realises what he did was wrong and how it affects other people.
I am just devastated by it all, I visited him for the first time the other day and he is a shell of the man who went in there last week. He isn't eating and he was sat crying for most of the visit. I can't get his face out of my mind, he look so confused and sad.
The prison service is very slow and there is not a lot of support out there for families, I feel I am being punished also. He can't ring me yet as there is a problem with his card, I email him daily and he replies about 3/4 days later.
I have heard that SO don't get released on tag but I've also read that some do, so that confuses me. Does anyone know the answer to this?
I just don't know how to stop thinking, it's constantly on my mind, thinking of him in there.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
A concerned mum x
My son got the knock two and a half years ago and he was in court last week. He was sentenced to 27 months, they are saying his release date will be January 2026.
I am really not coping well with it at all.
In the two years since the knock he has completely rehabilitated himself, he has done every course possible and speaks to a therapist once a fortnight, they are like friends now. He hates himself for viewing the images and he will never do it again. He has turned into a beautiful young man who is kind and considerate and realises what he did was wrong and how it affects other people.
I am just devastated by it all, I visited him for the first time the other day and he is a shell of the man who went in there last week. He isn't eating and he was sat crying for most of the visit. I can't get his face out of my mind, he look so confused and sad.
The prison service is very slow and there is not a lot of support out there for families, I feel I am being punished also. He can't ring me yet as there is a problem with his card, I email him daily and he replies about 3/4 days later.
I have heard that SO don't get released on tag but I've also read that some do, so that confuses me. Does anyone know the answer to this?
I just don't know how to stop thinking, it's constantly on my mind, thinking of him in there.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
A concerned mum x
Oh my goodness what a shock, and as a mum I can only imagine how heartbroken you are. Sending so much love.
May I ask what his offences were? That's a really harsh sentence.
May I ask what his offences were? That's a really harsh sentence.
Oh how my heart goes out to you. What a terrible shock after all the hard work he put in to turn his life around. From one mum to another I'm sending you both so much love and strength and am here if you ever what to message or chat
Hi, its such a shock when the person goes to prison my ex father to my children Also got a prison sentence the same length of time for Similar offence online offences only and I thought It was a harsh sentence for a first offence. At first he struggled but he is now a about half way down the line and settled to his new way of life and is about to do a course and has a job in there so keeps him busy it's just devastating even though you prepare yourself that they could go to prison the shock when it does happen is just horrible. It will get easier even though I left my ex when he was arrested I still cared a lot about him and it was devastating that he lost everything his job, friends his relationship with me having to see his kids supervised so the prison sentence was like a final kick in the teeth for him. Thinking of you as it's so hard those first few weeks worrying about them esp as a parent I don't think we ever stop worrying about our children. X
Oh my - you have my sympathy. It must be heartbreaking to watch your son so desperate, especially after all his hard work. I really feel for you as a loving mum.
A new routine and 'way of life' does evolve for those inside prison as it does for us on the outside. I'm sure he'll be ok and you'll feel more settled when he sorts his phone calls out etc.
i believe there are people that support inmates with their mental health issues - so perhaps he could send in an app to make an appointment with the healthcare team.
we are here for you, lots of mums on the forum xxxxxxx
A new routine and 'way of life' does evolve for those inside prison as it does for us on the outside. I'm sure he'll be ok and you'll feel more settled when he sorts his phone calls out etc.
i believe there are people that support inmates with their mental health issues - so perhaps he could send in an app to make an appointment with the healthcare team.
we are here for you, lots of mums on the forum xxxxxxx