My son was sentenced last week
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My son got the knock two and a half years ago and he was in court last week. He was sentenced to 27 months, they are saying his release date will be January 2026.
I am really not coping well with it at all.
In the two years since the knock he has completely rehabilitated himself, he has done every course possible and speaks to a therapist once a fortnight, they are like friends now. He hates himself for viewing the images and he will never do it again. He has turned into a beautiful young man who is kind and considerate and realises what he did was wrong and how it affects other people.
I am just devastated by it all, I visited him for the first time the other day and he is a shell of the man who went in there last week. He isn't eating and he was sat crying for most of the visit. I can't get his face out of my mind, he look so confused and sad.
The prison service is very slow and there is not a lot of support out there for families, I feel I am being punished also. He can't ring me yet as there is a problem with his card, I email him daily and he replies about 3/4 days later.
I have heard that SO don't get released on tag but I've also read that some do, so that confuses me. Does anyone know the answer to this?
I just don't know how to stop thinking, it's constantly on my mind, thinking of him in there.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
A concerned mum x
My son got the knock two and a half years ago and he was in court last week. He was sentenced to 27 months, they are saying his release date will be January 2026.
I am really not coping well with it at all.
In the two years since the knock he has completely rehabilitated himself, he has done every course possible and speaks to a therapist once a fortnight, they are like friends now. He hates himself for viewing the images and he will never do it again. He has turned into a beautiful young man who is kind and considerate and realises what he did was wrong and how it affects other people.
I am just devastated by it all, I visited him for the first time the other day and he is a shell of the man who went in there last week. He isn't eating and he was sat crying for most of the visit. I can't get his face out of my mind, he look so confused and sad.
The prison service is very slow and there is not a lot of support out there for families, I feel I am being punished also. He can't ring me yet as there is a problem with his card, I email him daily and he replies about 3/4 days later.
I have heard that SO don't get released on tag but I've also read that some do, so that confuses me. Does anyone know the answer to this?
I just don't know how to stop thinking, it's constantly on my mind, thinking of him in there.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
A concerned mum x
Hello Worried Mum. So sorry for all you are going through. I can't answer your questions but just wanted to say that I feel your pain and you are not alone.
Hello Numb and scared, thank you for taking the time to reply to me, it is very much appreciated x
Hi my son was sentenced 10 weeks ago and first visit tomorrow. I'm both looking forward to it and worried he'll break down. He is autistic so it's been an awful adjustment for him but be reassured they do settle down in time. The calls have been a life saver knowing he can call me anytime has helped him adjust. He's also doing a maths course which keeps him busy in the week. He like your son had a brilliant councillor, had a positive forensic psychologist report and his psr recommended community service. The judge was awful and took no notice of any of the mitigation and he has been sentenced to a year custodial and a year on licence. We had a brilliant solicitor/ barrister and but for him I think his sentence would have been a lot longer. Please feel free to pm me if you wish. Take care and know he will be ok. If you are worried you can contact the prison they have a safer custody email and phone answer service. I've used it a couple of times and they've got back to me by the next day after checking on my son and it's really reassuring.
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Hi Worried Mum,
My son had an inteview with the police in October, 3 years after the knock. He was told his case was being sent to the DPP and he would hear more next year. I am sick with worry. I don't know what I will do if he is sent to prison.
Thinking of you
My son had an inteview with the police in October, 3 years after the knock. He was told his case was being sent to the DPP and he would hear more next year. I am sick with worry. I don't know what I will do if he is sent to prison.
Thinking of you
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