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We have a child protection conference next week, but noone has really explained much about it, what is it, what is it for, how is it going to help? The case is to do with my partner but my ex has been invited because we have children together. However he has a girlfriend, they have only been together for 3 months and when I tell you this girl is causing SO many issues for me it's ridiculous. My. Children's father has been amazing throughout all of this, since the knock February 2022. Since he's met her its completely changed. She has gone to my children's school and demanded to be put as an emergency contact as "step mum" in the system, she has asked the school if they would be supportive of her having the children, and there's ample other things too. My question is, can I tell them I don't want her in the meeting? She has already requested a Claires law and Sarah's law on my partner (again 3 months she has been with my ex) and now is saying she wants to be apart of this meeting. I just want to know is there any way I can stop her attending or is that down to social services and the children's dad? I'm just not sure how well I'll hold my temper if she sits in that meeting pretending to know me, my partner and our children.
What a cheeky woman.
If I was a social worker, it would raise concerns that your ex gas introduced her to the children as stepmum after just 3 months of dating.
If she's invited to the child protection conference by any chance, I would definitely bring this up.
If I was a social worker, it would raise concerns that your ex gas introduced her to the children as stepmum after just 3 months of dating.
If she's invited to the child protection conference by any chance, I would definitely bring this up.
This page from the family rights group website is a source of general info about CP conferences.
https://frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/a-z-of-terms/child-protection-conference/
Whether this woman can attend would depend on how much input she's had in the children's life - whether she has things of note to share on their behalf - and having only been around for 3 months I doubt it, whatever she herself thinks of her importance. You should have a call from the Independent Reviewing Officer, who chairs the conference, beforehand and as one who has parental responsibility for the children (she hasn't!) you can state that you feel it would be unhelpful for her to attend. If your ex needs support for some reason then he could request that she comes to support him but that still doesn't mean that the IRO will allow it. I'd think too that the conference could include things of a confidential nature which is bad enough knowing that other professionals will hear them so it wouldn't be right for someone who's a virtual stranger to be there. Sounds like she's really overstepping the mark and wants to interfere - maybe she's unsettled by the closeness you and your ex have because of the shared children so is trying to push in herself.
https://frg.org.uk/get-help-and-advice/a-z-of-terms/child-protection-conference/
Whether this woman can attend would depend on how much input she's had in the children's life - whether she has things of note to share on their behalf - and having only been around for 3 months I doubt it, whatever she herself thinks of her importance. You should have a call from the Independent Reviewing Officer, who chairs the conference, beforehand and as one who has parental responsibility for the children (she hasn't!) you can state that you feel it would be unhelpful for her to attend. If your ex needs support for some reason then he could request that she comes to support him but that still doesn't mean that the IRO will allow it. I'd think too that the conference could include things of a confidential nature which is bad enough knowing that other professionals will hear them so it wouldn't be right for someone who's a virtual stranger to be there. Sounds like she's really overstepping the mark and wants to interfere - maybe she's unsettled by the closeness you and your ex have because of the shared children so is trying to push in herself.
Hi so from experience as a step mum you can say no to her being there.
Me and my partner had been together nearly a year when his ex had social involved due to her partner. She didn't want me involved and I wasn't allowed into the meetings because of it.
So yes you can say no.
If he wants support there then he can have his parents or something.
Me and my partner had been together nearly a year when his ex had social involved due to her partner. She didn't want me involved and I wasn't allowed into the meetings because of it.
So yes you can say no.
If he wants support there then he can have his parents or something.
He's had many partners since we split 7 years ago and this Is the worst one yet. She even filed for a Claires law and Sarah's law on my partner I have since learnt that she'll not be told anything other than the basics because she doesn't need to know any details of the case because kts nothing to do with her. I could write a list of the things that's been said and done by her in just 3 months but the children's school have expressed they have concerns about her and have put in a safe guarding matter of their own regarding her.
I have spoken to the social worker tonight about it and said to her I don't want her there and she has agreed that she has no parental responsibility do she has told their dad she's not allowed and he's to have his mum there as support instead if needed. She also has said that they're going too look into arranging 2 separate meetings because there may be things discussed eitn me and my partner he doesn't need to know about. So she said she's going to recommend one for me and my partner and another me and my ex
I have spoken to the social worker tonight about it and said to her I don't want her there and she has agreed that she has no parental responsibility do she has told their dad she's not allowed and he's to have his mum there as support instead if needed. She also has said that they're going too look into arranging 2 separate meetings because there may be things discussed eitn me and my partner he doesn't need to know about. So she said she's going to recommend one for me and my partner and another me and my ex
I am glad you have managed to sort it out :).
You have every reason not to want her there especially as it sounds like he's had a lot of partners and that she doesn't need to know or be involved with it all.
And that's good that the social worker is planning separate meetings it's nice to hear that she's thinking about things that your ex doesn't need to know etc.
You have every reason not to want her there especially as it sounds like he's had a lot of partners and that she doesn't need to know or be involved with it all.
And that's good that the social worker is planning separate meetings it's nice to hear that she's thinking about things that your ex doesn't need to know etc.
Honestly you wouldn't believe, he's been aware of everything since the day of the knock haven't once hidden anything and he's been brilliant through it all. Now he's with her, 2 years after the knock he's now saying he's not safe around the children and he worries about them around him and things. Which of course he is entitled to do but I personally feel like he's expressing these concerns too late because deep down I know they aren't him.
Me and the social worker have had our differences, and things haven't been easy. But I feel like tonight we turned a corner and she is finally seeing me for a real person so that's made me feel a bit easier. I'm hoping for a decent night sleep for the first time in a long time.
Ny only concern now is what will happen at the meeting, what are they going to talk about and what is going to be discussed
Me and the social worker have had our differences, and things haven't been easy. But I feel like tonight we turned a corner and she is finally seeing me for a real person so that's made me feel a bit easier. I'm hoping for a decent night sleep for the first time in a long time.
Ny only concern now is what will happen at the meeting, what are they going to talk about and what is going to be discussed