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My daughter has additional support needs and is really struggling. Dad is allowed to stay at home during the investigation but just be supervised.
Social services are out every week to visit and I'm happy to do what is asked but my daughter is becoming more and more distressed with these visits. Especially when the SW turns up to school to visit her also. They are trying to support her through this with her dad and her diagnosis but she doesn't always talk to the SW and he doesn't like how quiet she can be or feels she isn't telling him everything. Thing is he does know everything. The school have told him about the bullying as have I but that's not good enough. I just don't know what to do
Social services are out every week to visit and I'm happy to do what is asked but my daughter is becoming more and more distressed with these visits. Especially when the SW turns up to school to visit her also. They are trying to support her through this with her dad and her diagnosis but she doesn't always talk to the SW and he doesn't like how quiet she can be or feels she isn't telling him everything. Thing is he does know everything. The school have told him about the bullying as have I but that's not good enough. I just don't know what to do
Hi,
how old is your daughter? Is she always quiet around other adults that she doesn't know well? Does she have a couple of trusted adults, maybe teachers or from outside groups that may be able to give their opinions on how she is? It would be particularly helpful if they have been around her prior to arrest to now so they can identify if her additional needs or the investigation against your OH that is making her clam up. My daughter wasn't massively chatty with the sw on the only occasion they met but he was able to ask her some questions about how supportive me and her dad were of her etc.
It may be possible to have an advocate for your daughter, although this may be another stranger that she may not feel comfortable with. If she is old enough she could potentially opt out of ss involvement although you'd have to tread carefully there. They would still have meetings with yourself and professionals from the school depending on what plan you're on xxx
how old is your daughter? Is she always quiet around other adults that she doesn't know well? Does she have a couple of trusted adults, maybe teachers or from outside groups that may be able to give their opinions on how she is? It would be particularly helpful if they have been around her prior to arrest to now so they can identify if her additional needs or the investigation against your OH that is making her clam up. My daughter wasn't massively chatty with the sw on the only occasion they met but he was able to ask her some questions about how supportive me and her dad were of her etc.
It may be possible to have an advocate for your daughter, although this may be another stranger that she may not feel comfortable with. If she is old enough she could potentially opt out of ss involvement although you'd have to tread carefully there. They would still have meetings with yourself and professionals from the school depending on what plan you're on xxx
Thanks for your reply.
My daughter (12) is usually ok around other adults. Just the odd fee she doesn't like.
Social work only got involved after the arrest. The first SW we had was awful as she was very judgemental and opinionated. An example is a photo on our wall from a wedding 7 years ago. The old SW asked was it normal for her to stand nest to her dad in photos? Was anyone else around when the photo was taken (Obviously was someone was taking the photo and the massive room filled with other guest) then she told us we would never be a family again and that he's most likely going to prison (he was sent 12 photos amongst adult p&rn photos. He didn't go looking or asking for them) so that's why my daughter doesn't trust this SW and hardly talks. I have told him this but he doesn't believe that's what happened
My daughter (12) is usually ok around other adults. Just the odd fee she doesn't like.
Social work only got involved after the arrest. The first SW we had was awful as she was very judgemental and opinionated. An example is a photo on our wall from a wedding 7 years ago. The old SW asked was it normal for her to stand nest to her dad in photos? Was anyone else around when the photo was taken (Obviously was someone was taking the photo and the massive room filled with other guest) then she told us we would never be a family again and that he's most likely going to prison (he was sent 12 photos amongst adult p&rn photos. He didn't go looking or asking for them) so that's why my daughter doesn't trust this SW and hardly talks. I have told him this but he doesn't believe that's what happened