Family Destroyed?
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My first post here. I've been reading and trying to take comfort in not being alone but I'm still very overwhelmed. I'm the glue/rock in my family and trying to hold everything together. But I am struggling to understand how I feel while helping everyone else.
This is a very new situation. Our person tried to take their own life and after that attempt, only a week ago, have we only started to unravel why. What I know so far, they had 'the knock' (about 3 months ago) and a warrant to seize devices and an investigation was started. There has been no further development in those 3 months aside from our person having attempted to take their life. This investigation has obviously been a major factor but also tied in with drug addiction (also unknown until now).
As a family we are at a loss and trying to understand what has happened. Our person has spoken to healthcare professionals in hospital so some things have been revealed about how long this image sharing has been going on but we have no idea the severity of the images or age ranges. The unknown is hard but is knowing worse? I want to probe but also scared for the answers.
I am struggling because the immediate news of the attempted suicide meant reaching out to a lot of people for support and now we have this information about the investigation and potential images we don't know how to keep the conversation going. People are concerned but now we feel ashamed and do not know how to start explaining. I also have a lot of mixed emotions about the situation and a lot of anger that we are in this position but then immediate guilt for feeling that way.
everything seems a mess and I'm just curious to hear if anyone has been in this situation where everyone knows about the suicide attempt and is worried but now it's all going to change when the new information comes. Also, how long have your experiences been from 'the knock' to the investigation to an arrest/court date etc. I'm still not entirely sure what the process is.
I'm sorry for rambling. I will continue to try and hold the family together despite my own emotions and feelings.
This is a very new situation. Our person tried to take their own life and after that attempt, only a week ago, have we only started to unravel why. What I know so far, they had 'the knock' (about 3 months ago) and a warrant to seize devices and an investigation was started. There has been no further development in those 3 months aside from our person having attempted to take their life. This investigation has obviously been a major factor but also tied in with drug addiction (also unknown until now).
As a family we are at a loss and trying to understand what has happened. Our person has spoken to healthcare professionals in hospital so some things have been revealed about how long this image sharing has been going on but we have no idea the severity of the images or age ranges. The unknown is hard but is knowing worse? I want to probe but also scared for the answers.
I am struggling because the immediate news of the attempted suicide meant reaching out to a lot of people for support and now we have this information about the investigation and potential images we don't know how to keep the conversation going. People are concerned but now we feel ashamed and do not know how to start explaining. I also have a lot of mixed emotions about the situation and a lot of anger that we are in this position but then immediate guilt for feeling that way.
everything seems a mess and I'm just curious to hear if anyone has been in this situation where everyone knows about the suicide attempt and is worried but now it's all going to change when the new information comes. Also, how long have your experiences been from 'the knock' to the investigation to an arrest/court date etc. I'm still not entirely sure what the process is.
I'm sorry for rambling. I will continue to try and hold the family together despite my own emotions and feelings.
I am sorry that you find yourself in this position. I feel it would be a good idea to speak with the helpline so they can support you with everything that is going on. They would have definitely have come across the scenario you are currently in.
Personally, I would not rush into telling anyone about the reasons why your family member attempted suicide. Once it is shared, it can never be taken back.
You are very likely still processing a lot of trauma, so it is important to try and find sometime for you if that is possible (as it sounds from your post you are supporting everyone else) so you do not neglect yourself, which is very easy to do when you are on this journey.
I am thinking of you and your family member and I hope my post helps in someway.
Personally, I would not rush into telling anyone about the reasons why your family member attempted suicide. Once it is shared, it can never be taken back.
You are very likely still processing a lot of trauma, so it is important to try and find sometime for you if that is possible (as it sounds from your post you are supporting everyone else) so you do not neglect yourself, which is very easy to do when you are on this journey.
I am thinking of you and your family member and I hope my post helps in someway.
Hello,
I wanted you to know that you are not alone. My husband attempted suicide and spent 3 weeks in the hospital. It was only then that he was able to admit what he'd looked at. Before that, I knew about the investigation but was told "it was a mistake". For us, it was the beginning of honesty and accountability, which is the first step in recovery. Take things one day at a time right now, take care of yourself, and keep reaching out for support.
I wanted you to know that you are not alone. My husband attempted suicide and spent 3 weeks in the hospital. It was only then that he was able to admit what he'd looked at. Before that, I knew about the investigation but was told "it was a mistake". For us, it was the beginning of honesty and accountability, which is the first step in recovery. Take things one day at a time right now, take care of yourself, and keep reaching out for support.
hi,
I am sorry that you find yourself here.
My son attempted suicide several times before court, I didn't think we would be able to keep him alive until court. After sentencing has not attempted. I have to say that maybe it was because he didn't want to face court or what he had done.
I also want to say that the wait for help with mental health is absolutely shocking but he is now intouch with several people to help him.
I feel that post sentencing life is more back to normal. It has been a very tough road tho.
I may sound harsh in this post but it is the reality of it.
Hope this helps
Kind regards
I am sorry that you find yourself here.
My son attempted suicide several times before court, I didn't think we would be able to keep him alive until court. After sentencing has not attempted. I have to say that maybe it was because he didn't want to face court or what he had done.
I also want to say that the wait for help with mental health is absolutely shocking but he is now intouch with several people to help him.
I feel that post sentencing life is more back to normal. It has been a very tough road tho.
I may sound harsh in this post but it is the reality of it.
Hope this helps
Kind regards