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Last Friday everything changed when the police arrested my partner of 15 years for suspension of possessing an indecent image of a child.
As if that wasn't bad enough it then came to light that he has a previous conviction from 2005 and had spent 10 years on SOR. Neither of which I had any idea about.
When he explained the previous offence and his 15 month prison sentence it sounded like a terrible but genuine mistake of believing a person he met in a nightclub was 18 when in fact they turned out to be 15.
He's since admitted that this wasn't the case and he was convicted of sexual communication with a 15 year old boy. He claims that this never happened and the boy had access to his phone and sent the messages to himself. It could of happened that way but given he chose to lie about the circumstances of his conviction I now feel I can't believe anything he says.
My heads in a mess and I can't even begin to thing about the current investigation. Since friday we had been talking really well about things but now that he has been forced to tell the truth about his previous offence he's completely shut down and won't discuss things with me, he's just carrying on like nothing has happened.
As if that wasn't bad enough it then came to light that he has a previous conviction from 2005 and had spent 10 years on SOR. Neither of which I had any idea about.
When he explained the previous offence and his 15 month prison sentence it sounded like a terrible but genuine mistake of believing a person he met in a nightclub was 18 when in fact they turned out to be 15.
He's since admitted that this wasn't the case and he was convicted of sexual communication with a 15 year old boy. He claims that this never happened and the boy had access to his phone and sent the messages to himself. It could of happened that way but given he chose to lie about the circumstances of his conviction I now feel I can't believe anything he says.
My heads in a mess and I can't even begin to thing about the current investigation. Since friday we had been talking really well about things but now that he has been forced to tell the truth about his previous offence he's completely shut down and won't discuss things with me, he's just carrying on like nothing has happened.
Hi, I'm sorry you've found yourself joining us on here but you've done the right thing in reaching out.
At the moment you'll still be in shock trying to come to terms with what you've learned about your partner. My suggestion to you is to try and take one day at a time, spending time caring for your own needs. I've had 3 years to come to terms with my persons offending and can say that life won't always seem this bad, things do get better.
At the moment you'll still be in shock trying to come to terms with what you've learned about your partner. My suggestion to you is to try and take one day at a time, spending time caring for your own needs. I've had 3 years to come to terms with my persons offending and can say that life won't always seem this bad, things do get better.
I've sent you a wee message incase you want to chat at all - no offense taken if you're not in the headspace for that though!
Just take one day at a time and remember you don't have to make any big decisions yet. Just focus on looking after yourself if you can.
Just take one day at a time and remember you don't have to make any big decisions yet. Just focus on looking after yourself if you can.