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Luis

Member since
August 2020

39 posts

Posted Fri December 13, 2024 7:49pmReport post

What do I do?



it's been 4 years since the knock.
my dad is offender.



it's been hell we as a family still struggle. Dad is still with mum just!



Ive noticed lately his change in mood - he's negative, horrible to be around, he's been ill too which hasn't helped.

only yday I find him searching porn on YouTube on the tv in the living room seconds away from my niece and nephew walking in ..

I had to think quick - I banged in the window to warn him to stop him.



What do i do? Feel like I've gone back 4 years we cannot go through any of this shit again!

LosingIt

Member since
September 2024

139 posts

Posted Fri December 13, 2024 8:12pmReport post

Oh no, I am sorry. On the positive side you can't find actual porn on YouTube so at least he can't get himself into trouble there. Has he considered porn addiction therapy?

Lrf

Member since
July 2024

39 posts

Posted Fri December 13, 2024 9:18pmReport post

That sounds like quite erratic behaviour or suggests he hasn't got any inhibitions about people finding out? To access it on the living room TV when you have family/children round.

This could be totally left field but have you had him checked out by a doctor, certain conditions, I think of dementia but there are others can cause a person to lose their inhibitions, be unable to regulate what is socially acceptable, unable to control their impulses, out of character behaviour, often exhibit sexually inappropriate behaviours or appear 'rude' and angry. It is quite easy to miss in the early stages.

By the way I'm absolutely not saying he has anything else going on but it might be worth checking into with the GP if his personality and inhibition has recently changed.

Edited Fri December 13, 2024 9:40pm