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Oh Smile my dear dear friend I really feel for you it is so unfair that you have been made to feel like this when you have done nothing wrong.

have lost someone who I thought was a good friend who has known my son since he was a baby and who I really thought had empathy for me so I completely understand how you feel- she has definitely been giving me the cold shoulder on the rare occasions that we have met and sadly I think that I have to consign the friendship to the past now.

Sending you the biggest possible hugs and I'm here always for you my lovely xxxx

Smile,



We are the strongest people I know and our love for our persons go way above the opinions of those that have never walked this path and who remain small minded and closed off in their thinking.



We matter and our person matters, to me that strength in love never will diminish. Who knows who of those small minded people may one day walk this path and realise their own pain.



Love and hugs

Xxx

Smile xx

Huge hugs always sent xx

It does seem so unfair. We need the kindness& compassion of others. We don't expect them to understand our terrible situation but cold-shouldering/ghosting shows how week they are.

Obviously we may not necessarily know someone's own experience either for themselves or others that may colour their view.

Having worked with& supported children for over 40 years,I was immediately appalled by my son's offences and felt for the victims. I now accept that I cannot change the past only help him to prevent something similar in the future.

I must add that we have only received kindness to our knowledge apart from my husband's sisters who have rejected us.

Love & compassion to all x

Smile,

I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are not alone, I have also had this happen. I hope that you were able to put the experience behind you and focus on the people in your life who matter. I know it's harder said than done. Take care of yourself.

Oh Smile, I'm so sorry to read how the actions of another person have made you feel like you do. You are worth so much more than that and deserve so much better from someone you were once close too. You've done the right thing by pulling on those big girl pants and holding your head up high. Grieving the loss of a friendship is hard and its perfectly ok to feel the way you do.

Haven't been here for a long time, just reading how everyone doing.

This happened to me few months ago and it really upset me. I lost all my siblings expect 2. One of them invited me to a party, hub didn't come .

There was 2 family members there who blank me, looked at me like what she doing here and made a big point not to speak to me. Made me uncomfortable. I was extremely hurt, these are the people who put be kind you don't know what anyone going through on their status shame they don't follow their own advice.

Xx

After the knock and my now ex's case going across all social media, papers and radio, all my ". Friends" disappeared. Their attitude was that "she must've known" and were appalled that I visited him in prison. They simply could not know the trauma and everything that's involved after this happens. They claimed they'd walk away from their spouse there and then. Well that said much more about their relationships than mine! Of course I didn't know what he was up to. I'm 99% certain they don't know what their other half's after up to on the internet day in day out. Nowadays I'm glad they've gone. Don't need people like that in my life. X

Smile.....it's easy to judge when you've never had to walk in The other persons shoes; and I think a huge problem here is many people think it can never happen to them. I was one of them. But my god have I had my eyes opened! Try hold your head up high; they don't get it, they don't know how hard your life has been and the hell you've clawed your way through. Rise above my lovely. Rise above.

I absolutely feel you pain! It is so unfair when other people judge us who are completely innocent! We seem to loose so much alongside te actual offenders and often deal with much more head on while they hide away.

My rant is the siblings of the offender put on big fake smiles in front of me pretending it's all normal, then clearly slag me off behind my back for not giving in to the offenders demands and that he is the real victim now he has lost everything because of His actions and I'm taking everything harder.

The thing that really grated on me (unexpected really) was they sent kids Xmas cards and left my name off... Felt like a real dagger in the heart.

I did give them opportunities to keep things normal, tried to rekindle the family bonds, as everyone deals with things different, shock, accepting someone they've known offended, but I feel so much better now I've drawn a line.

I got sick of making excuses for others behaviours, we deserve respect not judgy assumptions , but I won't tolerate them been rude when I'm innocent and sadly have to move on for my own sanity.