Support not as supportive!
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Evening everyone, here I am again! Sorry to burden you with the next instalment but I need to take a minute with you all in my safe space!
It turns out my parents aren't fully supporting us, they've said tonight that they're in a very awkward position and although they still like my OH and they're not condemning him, they want to see what the outcome at crown court is so it doesn't look as if they're condoning it. I think it's been such a huge shock and they've been really sad about the whole thing. Still not spoken to my sister in law in person (social work background) but she's spent 3 hours with my parents today - along with my highly opinionated brother - so I can only assume that this might have culminated in the response.
Felt sad at the turn around, or that they'd not told me what they were thinking sooner, I went cold all over when mum called to tell me tonight - had a few of those all over body chills during this journey, I'm sure you'll know what I mean.
However there's part of me that's absolutely resolute (I've become far stronger than I ever thought I would be) and I know I want my life to be with my OH. He's my one. He made an error of judgement, he's committed to understanding why and come out a much better person for it. I'm not quite clear how anything that happens in court can take that away from him, and if my parents can't see that, then I don't hold out much hope for the rest of them! I think ultimately they need more time, but Xmas is now going to look very different and that's really tough.
At least I still have the unwavering support from my ex. He has had experience of problematic porn and understands the dangers of the online world - plus we both had experience of the mess and ridiculousness of the family court when his estranged parents took us to court to get access to our kids! It's nice to have his grounded opinion and he's the one helping me keep my head straight at the minute. I've asked him round for Christmas Eve with my OH so we can say thank you for his support. What an unlikely trio though!!
As I always say these days, the sun will rise and the sun will set, bring on another day and another challenge! X
It turns out my parents aren't fully supporting us, they've said tonight that they're in a very awkward position and although they still like my OH and they're not condemning him, they want to see what the outcome at crown court is so it doesn't look as if they're condoning it. I think it's been such a huge shock and they've been really sad about the whole thing. Still not spoken to my sister in law in person (social work background) but she's spent 3 hours with my parents today - along with my highly opinionated brother - so I can only assume that this might have culminated in the response.
Felt sad at the turn around, or that they'd not told me what they were thinking sooner, I went cold all over when mum called to tell me tonight - had a few of those all over body chills during this journey, I'm sure you'll know what I mean.
However there's part of me that's absolutely resolute (I've become far stronger than I ever thought I would be) and I know I want my life to be with my OH. He's my one. He made an error of judgement, he's committed to understanding why and come out a much better person for it. I'm not quite clear how anything that happens in court can take that away from him, and if my parents can't see that, then I don't hold out much hope for the rest of them! I think ultimately they need more time, but Xmas is now going to look very different and that's really tough.
At least I still have the unwavering support from my ex. He has had experience of problematic porn and understands the dangers of the online world - plus we both had experience of the mess and ridiculousness of the family court when his estranged parents took us to court to get access to our kids! It's nice to have his grounded opinion and he's the one helping me keep my head straight at the minute. I've asked him round for Christmas Eve with my OH so we can say thank you for his support. What an unlikely trio though!!
As I always say these days, the sun will rise and the sun will set, bring on another day and another challenge! X