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I recently rekindled a friendship with someone I have known for years. I'll call him J. Last night, he informed me that he had a conviction earlier this year for viewing indecent images of children. He told me a lot of mitigating information relating to his past, which I am weighing up in my head.
Today I had a phone call from a police officer who was involved with the case checking that J had told me of his conviction. Unfortunately he is also referring my family to social services (I have 2 children who have had no contact with J for several years, and I don't think they have ever been unsupervised together).
My head is absolutely battered and I don't feel I can talk to anyone in my life about this. In light of the social services input I'm going to have to tell my ex. I'm not sure what I'm asking here, I just mostly want to get this out of my head. I'm in bits about it. I feel angry that my friend didn't tell me sooner, I feel sad for him, but also repulsed by it.
Today I had a phone call from a police officer who was involved with the case checking that J had told me of his conviction. Unfortunately he is also referring my family to social services (I have 2 children who have had no contact with J for several years, and I don't think they have ever been unsupervised together).
My head is absolutely battered and I don't feel I can talk to anyone in my life about this. In light of the social services input I'm going to have to tell my ex. I'm not sure what I'm asking here, I just mostly want to get this out of my head. I'm in bits about it. I feel angry that my friend didn't tell me sooner, I feel sad for him, but also repulsed by it.
The police probably asked him for names of anyone he has contact with who have children. Ss will possibly give you a call to discuss no unsupervised contact with your children which he wouldn't have anyway if they haven't seen him in years. You may not need to disclose to your ex especially if ss don't arrange to come out to you.
It's a lot to process and your feelings are all valid and will probably change regularly xxx
It's a lot to process and your feelings are all valid and will probably change regularly xxx