CPC- wow.
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We had our inital child protection conference yesterday and wow. Just wow. I was not expecting it to be like what it was, not in the slightest. They split the conference into 2, one for me and my ex regarding our children and then me and my partner straight after for our children. And wow. The first half with my ex was just an hour and half of me constantly being attacked by 12 professionals. I was told I'm putting my own sexual needs before my children by continuing a relationship (my partner isn't allowed contact with my older children and hasn't had any. But when they're with their dad my youngest stays with my mum so I can spend time with my partner) I was told I am "palming my children off for my own secual needs" .. even though thyre with their dad or their nan who ask for them. It was just so much I wasn't expecting then straight after inhad to sit through it all again witb my partner only by this time, I was completely defeated and had nothing left to say. I'd spent the last hour and half being torn apart purely for my decision to stay with my partner. So when my partner walked In the room I just fell in the chair and had nothing more to say i sort of passed the buck to him if you will, then they tried to say that because of my reaction when he walked in the room they think he is abusive and I'm scared of him. That meeting too went terribly, The children were all put on a child protection plan. I was hoping I'd be left alone now just for a few days. But no. The social worker phoned this morning, she wants to come out Monday morning to run through some bits from the conference. I just want to be left alone. I can't wait until 5 o'clock today when I know I'm going to be left alone for the weekend.
Wow, I am so sorry. What a disgusting comment about your sexual needs. As if that's the only thing you're in for.
I would make a complaint. Who has said this? xx
I would make a complaint. Who has said this? xx
That's appalling! You poor thing! I think I would be inclined to put in a complaint.
Sending virtual hugs xx
I'm so fortunate in that my kids are adults, however we do have grandchildren and I'm dreading the time when SS need to get involved further (they have spoken to our daughters and are happy for now as there is zero contact)
Sending virtual hugs xx
I'm so fortunate in that my kids are adults, however we do have grandchildren and I'm dreading the time when SS need to get involved further (they have spoken to our daughters and are happy for now as there is zero contact)
If I'm going to be honest they was all talking at me at the same time. I'm 99% sure it was one of the police officers who said it. I wouldn't even know where to go making a complaint.
It's horrendous, however, I can't stress this enough, this is how it will be with them. All they want is for you to walk away from him. That's all that matters to them. They will say anything and make you jump through as many hoops as they can to get you to comply. I went to see a solicitor about it and was told in no uncertain terms to stop supporting my then husband or I ran the risk of SS's looking at me as well as him. I wasn't going to let that happen ad I'd done nothing wrong. You have to be seen to be putting your children first.
That is honestly disgusting and a horrific experience, it doesn't matter which professional said it the chair of that meeting should be ashamed of themselves for not bringing more order i.e. letting everyone talk to you at once and even make a comment like that in the first place.
I'd certainly put in a complaint if I were you, but only when you're ready to and of course if you want to, I've been through a few Child protection conferences and in both the email & letter I was sent afterwards that go through the minutes and outcomes of the meeting there's a bit at the very end that tells you about the complaint procedure. I wish I could tell you more but things might vary place to place.
sending virtual hugs & support xx
I'd certainly put in a complaint if I were you, but only when you're ready to and of course if you want to, I've been through a few Child protection conferences and in both the email & letter I was sent afterwards that go through the minutes and outcomes of the meeting there's a bit at the very end that tells you about the complaint procedure. I wish I could tell you more but things might vary place to place.
sending virtual hugs & support xx