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does anyone know if PPU(offending manager) Work weekends/christmas?
We have a rare opportunity this close to christmas to finalise our christmas shopping and after a rough couple weeks and my mental health just being all over, to spend as a couple whilst he cant live in house until SS finally approve it but we know it wont be for while.
hes staying at his parents until hes allowed home and i cant wait to be at the end of this wait of sentencing next month however time as a couple is very limited so im so happy we can get this time.
Hes home adddress and his parents is on the SOR and his PPU have said he can come over and stay in the house as long as the children arent there and SS have agreed.
Christmas is going to be awful like last year but me and the children can go to his parents house with him and spend it there but just no overnight and we are due to start the assesment in the new year for me to move forward and supervise in our home instead of only in the community.
Anyway, he is unsure if he has to inform his PPU officer that he is staying with me and the children are staying at grandparents tomorrow night to finish the christmas shopping and to spend time together before the hecticness of christmas. Hes tried calling her but her phone is off so hes text her explaining just incase they were to come out and he werent there.
would this be a problem? They know we are continuing the relationship and his PPU was so understanding when asking if we could go away for uk weekend break in febuary and she explained she had no problems as long as hes wary of hotels aka T&C's and she recommended well known hotels instead of little bnb's etc) and she said she knows that couples need breaks to spend time and to get a break from the children to talk etc.
i have a ring camera on the door so we cant be accused of him coming into the home etc. im only asking about christmas just incase we do decide to go over christmas day/boxing day for the afternoon and they were to turn up. Our children dont know whats going on so i dont know if they would leave it as a quick door opening or if they would want to come in and talk which id rather not where the children are as im unsure where i am at in telling them (i want too one day and SS have told me i may need to but christmas is not the time)
p.s hes got no court restrictions or anything and as above, our home address is down as an additional address on his SOR
any help or advice is much appreciated xx
does anyone know if PPU(offending manager) Work weekends/christmas?
We have a rare opportunity this close to christmas to finalise our christmas shopping and after a rough couple weeks and my mental health just being all over, to spend as a couple whilst he cant live in house until SS finally approve it but we know it wont be for while.
hes staying at his parents until hes allowed home and i cant wait to be at the end of this wait of sentencing next month however time as a couple is very limited so im so happy we can get this time.
Hes home adddress and his parents is on the SOR and his PPU have said he can come over and stay in the house as long as the children arent there and SS have agreed.
Christmas is going to be awful like last year but me and the children can go to his parents house with him and spend it there but just no overnight and we are due to start the assesment in the new year for me to move forward and supervise in our home instead of only in the community.
Anyway, he is unsure if he has to inform his PPU officer that he is staying with me and the children are staying at grandparents tomorrow night to finish the christmas shopping and to spend time together before the hecticness of christmas. Hes tried calling her but her phone is off so hes text her explaining just incase they were to come out and he werent there.
would this be a problem? They know we are continuing the relationship and his PPU was so understanding when asking if we could go away for uk weekend break in febuary and she explained she had no problems as long as hes wary of hotels aka T&C's and she recommended well known hotels instead of little bnb's etc) and she said she knows that couples need breaks to spend time and to get a break from the children to talk etc.
i have a ring camera on the door so we cant be accused of him coming into the home etc. im only asking about christmas just incase we do decide to go over christmas day/boxing day for the afternoon and they were to turn up. Our children dont know whats going on so i dont know if they would leave it as a quick door opening or if they would want to come in and talk which id rather not where the children are as im unsure where i am at in telling them (i want too one day and SS have told me i may need to but christmas is not the time)
p.s hes got no court restrictions or anything and as above, our home address is down as an additional address on his SOR
any help or advice is much appreciated xx
Hi,
We were told for my OH he needs to let the police know everytime he stays at my address whether our daughter is here or not as its not his permanent residence
I think it's to cover from allegations and stuff but also if PPU decide to come visit etc and he's not at home.
I think if it was me I would want to anyway just to be on the safer side social involvement etc means I am afraid if there was to be any allegations etc or whatever it would cover us.
We were told for my OH he needs to let the police know everytime he stays at my address whether our daughter is here or not as its not his permanent residence
I think it's to cover from allegations and stuff but also if PPU decide to come visit etc and he's not at home.
I think if it was me I would want to anyway just to be on the safer side social involvement etc means I am afraid if there was to be any allegations etc or whatever it would cover us.
thank you so much for replying xx
yeah thats what we were thinking. Im glad hes text her now.
she did say if he was unable to contact her then to drop her a text because then thats always proof that hes made contact instead of just his "word" so hes text her and told her.
i would always prefer to let them know everything, and im even more pleased ive got the ring camera too although i know they dont see it as proof etc but it gives peaceo f mind that if anything got pointed towards us, we have proof for otherwise. Itcovers us and him and im the same with social involvement, i know our SW has now finished for christmas until january now so now point in contacting her but she isnt intrested in what we do as a coiple as long as the children arent involved when it comes to being in the home.
i feel i can breath now knowing we have made the better choice and text (plus his attempts to call her too) and i can look forward to finally shopping as a couple and to spend some time together, i think after these past couple weeks, its well needed and the children cant wait to sleep at their grandparents too xx
yeah thats what we were thinking. Im glad hes text her now.
she did say if he was unable to contact her then to drop her a text because then thats always proof that hes made contact instead of just his "word" so hes text her and told her.
i would always prefer to let them know everything, and im even more pleased ive got the ring camera too although i know they dont see it as proof etc but it gives peaceo f mind that if anything got pointed towards us, we have proof for otherwise. Itcovers us and him and im the same with social involvement, i know our SW has now finished for christmas until january now so now point in contacting her but she isnt intrested in what we do as a coiple as long as the children arent involved when it comes to being in the home.
i feel i can breath now knowing we have made the better choice and text (plus his attempts to call her too) and i can look forward to finally shopping as a couple and to spend some time together, i think after these past couple weeks, its well needed and the children cant wait to sleep at their grandparents too xx