This time of year
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This time of year is the anniversary finding out my partner had been under investigation and now been charged. This was 3 years ago.
It's also the year anniversary of him being released from prison.
I hope one day we'll be able to celebrate Christmas without remembering these painful anniversaries, for now I acknowledge them but try to not give them to much space.
I know that this time of year will be hard for many, emotionally and practical. I think of us all often, silently navigating this painful journey, particularly at times like Christmas that feel extra difficult.
3 years ago , I spent the whole Christmas break scouring this website for information, knowledge and a glimmer of hope. 2 years ago I shared the grief and pain of having a loved one in prison and living a lie. Whilst we are the other side of sentencing and prison there is still pain, hurt and a lot to navigate but we are getting ready for a quiet Christmas together.
Please be gentle and kind to yourself over the next few days and I hope that those navigating the most painful parts of this journey manage to find some joy and serenity.
I'm ever grateful for the support of this forum and whilst Christmas greetings might not feel appropriate, I guess this is a little acknowledgement to you all at this time of year and a knowing gentle hug.
xxx
It's also the year anniversary of him being released from prison.
I hope one day we'll be able to celebrate Christmas without remembering these painful anniversaries, for now I acknowledge them but try to not give them to much space.
I know that this time of year will be hard for many, emotionally and practical. I think of us all often, silently navigating this painful journey, particularly at times like Christmas that feel extra difficult.
3 years ago , I spent the whole Christmas break scouring this website for information, knowledge and a glimmer of hope. 2 years ago I shared the grief and pain of having a loved one in prison and living a lie. Whilst we are the other side of sentencing and prison there is still pain, hurt and a lot to navigate but we are getting ready for a quiet Christmas together.
Please be gentle and kind to yourself over the next few days and I hope that those navigating the most painful parts of this journey manage to find some joy and serenity.
I'm ever grateful for the support of this forum and whilst Christmas greetings might not feel appropriate, I guess this is a little acknowledgement to you all at this time of year and a knowing gentle hug.
xxx
Hi Sal - I'm feeling lots of triggers at the moment to be honest which I'm sure we all are x
sent you a quick message x
sent you a quick message x
Sal,
What a beautiful post and exactly what I needed to read today. My husband is in prison. I didn't know how hard it would be to fill out all the gift tags. For some people, I left his name off. For others I put it on. It was so hard. Such a little thing.
I hope are able to find some peace and serenity this holiday season.
What a beautiful post and exactly what I needed to read today. My husband is in prison. I didn't know how hard it would be to fill out all the gift tags. For some people, I left his name off. For others I put it on. It was so hard. Such a little thing.
I hope are able to find some peace and serenity this holiday season.
SAL x
Thank you for your message xx
Love sent as always xx
Thank you for your message xx
Love sent as always xx
Love to you Sal at this time. I hope you manage a peaceful xmas.
Prairiemom....i know what you mean about the gifttags. I also get all knotted up how to sign cards, birthdays and xmas. Its the little things that can be the biggest headache. Xx
Prairiemom....i know what you mean about the gifttags. I also get all knotted up how to sign cards, birthdays and xmas. Its the little things that can be the biggest headache. Xx
Thank you Sal,
I needed to hear that. My journey has just begun. I sit here at the Christmas table, finishing wrapping presents for our boy whilst they are asleep. I love my husband but I didn't deserve this. None of us did. The Christmas presents I bought for family are being distributed through my mum as I can't face seeing my side of the family at Christmas without my husband by my side.
Sending love and hope to everyone at this time of year.
Along we must plod xx
I needed to hear that. My journey has just begun. I sit here at the Christmas table, finishing wrapping presents for our boy whilst they are asleep. I love my husband but I didn't deserve this. None of us did. The Christmas presents I bought for family are being distributed through my mum as I can't face seeing my side of the family at Christmas without my husband by my side.
Sending love and hope to everyone at this time of year.
Along we must plod xx
Sal xxx
Thank you for posting your lovely words. This time is especially hard for many families in this awful journey and a few kind words mean the world.
We are the other side of sentencing and trying to find a new 'normal'. This will be the first Christmas without any contact with my family, all communication etc has been stopped due to OH offending and me choosing to support him. It's hard, I miss them.
i hope everyone takes some time over the next couple of days to relax and have some 'me time'. Take care xxxxx
Thank you for posting your lovely words. This time is especially hard for many families in this awful journey and a few kind words mean the world.
We are the other side of sentencing and trying to find a new 'normal'. This will be the first Christmas without any contact with my family, all communication etc has been stopped due to OH offending and me choosing to support him. It's hard, I miss them.
i hope everyone takes some time over the next couple of days to relax and have some 'me time'. Take care xxxxx
First year I haven't had any cards addressed to the both of us.
A sign of moving on.
Next Christmas will be so much better. I will be in my own home and divorced.
I will get there.
I'm definitely stronger than I ever thought possible.
A sign of moving on.
Next Christmas will be so much better. I will be in my own home and divorced.
I will get there.
I'm definitely stronger than I ever thought possible.
Thank you for such kind supportive words
First Xmas post-knock. I've done all the presents, the wrapping, the sneaking them out once little people are asleep. I've written the cards from me and my son. Ive done all the usual Xmas things and organised for some of them to have dad there with supervision to try preserve the Xmas traditions. It's hard, really hard but here I am. Still standing. I've done it, and I can face whatever fresh hell is brought my way next year, because as bad as it gets it can't be as bad as day 1.
Stay strong and I hope you can find some glimmers of happiness at these tough times for families like ours. I hold all your families in my heart and hope there are fewer of us here next year.
First Xmas post-knock. I've done all the presents, the wrapping, the sneaking them out once little people are asleep. I've written the cards from me and my son. Ive done all the usual Xmas things and organised for some of them to have dad there with supervision to try preserve the Xmas traditions. It's hard, really hard but here I am. Still standing. I've done it, and I can face whatever fresh hell is brought my way next year, because as bad as it gets it can't be as bad as day 1.
Stay strong and I hope you can find some glimmers of happiness at these tough times for families like ours. I hold all your families in my heart and hope there are fewer of us here next year.