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My son has recently been released from prison but has nowhere to live
Went we got the knock the first time I helped him even paying for his solicitor and to do a coarse
He got of with a suspended sentence 2 months later the knock came again he had reoffended and was locked up for 18months
I feel totally broken that I can't have him as I feel I enabled him to reoffend by making his life easy
so my son is homeless
I just wondered if anyone else has been through this and any advice on how to deal with the guilt
Went we got the knock the first time I helped him even paying for his solicitor and to do a coarse
He got of with a suspended sentence 2 months later the knock came again he had reoffended and was locked up for 18months
I feel totally broken that I can't have him as I feel I enabled him to reoffend by making his life easy
so my son is homeless
I just wondered if anyone else has been through this and any advice on how to deal with the guilt
Oh Victoria I'm so sorry you find yourself here and what a worry it must be for you knowing your son is homeless. I'm here too because of my son but fortunately my son was able to move in with me on the night of his arrest so I haven't had to go through the worry of him being homeless on top of everything else.
I'm not sure who your son has helping him or what provisions there are for the homeless where he is living. In my local area there is a mixture of emergency beds, hostels and house shares. These are all managed by the local council and Salvation Army. A good starting point would be to get your son to contact the local councils emergency housing or homelessness prevention team.
Please don't think for a minute that you were in some way responsible for your son reoffending as it's not your fault. Your son made his own bad decisions which you cannot be responsible for. Hopefully your son will now be getting support through his probation officer and offender manger to help him in his rehabilitation so that he'll be able to make better choices in the future.
I'm not sure who your son has helping him or what provisions there are for the homeless where he is living. In my local area there is a mixture of emergency beds, hostels and house shares. These are all managed by the local council and Salvation Army. A good starting point would be to get your son to contact the local councils emergency housing or homelessness prevention team.
Please don't think for a minute that you were in some way responsible for your son reoffending as it's not your fault. Your son made his own bad decisions which you cannot be responsible for. Hopefully your son will now be getting support through his probation officer and offender manger to help him in his rehabilitation so that he'll be able to make better choices in the future.
Victoriacake - please don't blame yourself. Where families feel they can offer meaningful support, this actually reduces the chances of reoffending. You offered your son a hand up many in these circumstances don't get, but he still didn't want hard enough to make the changes to himself he really need to. You clearly still care for him and whatever you decide will be the right thing.
When my son is released from prison we couldn't possibly have him back home to live, so therefore he will have to be housed. He has never lived independently so will need a lot of support, plus a job!
For him to be homeless is my biggest fear, fills my head with worry and nightmares, god knows how I'd cope with that one / so can understand how you feel Victoriacake.
He tells me most of the guys in there say they prefer to serve their whole sentence in custody rather than be released earlier on parole which I feel is very sad. A lot of these men have skills to offer on the outside.
He has been told by his probation officer this will not happen, but with such a housing shortage these days, I'm sceptical.
As a lot of these men will be looking for employment too, why not offer them courses aimed to fill gaps in trades that this country needs to build these government promised extra houses. A real package to support prisoners to encourage and promote rehabilitation, giving hope and confidence for their future.
For him to be homeless is my biggest fear, fills my head with worry and nightmares, god knows how I'd cope with that one / so can understand how you feel Victoriacake.
He tells me most of the guys in there say they prefer to serve their whole sentence in custody rather than be released earlier on parole which I feel is very sad. A lot of these men have skills to offer on the outside.
He has been told by his probation officer this will not happen, but with such a housing shortage these days, I'm sceptical.
As a lot of these men will be looking for employment too, why not offer them courses aimed to fill gaps in trades that this country needs to build these government promised extra houses. A real package to support prisoners to encourage and promote rehabilitation, giving hope and confidence for their future.
Hi, my person is my now ex husband. He went to prison for the first knock. He was homeless after he got out but Probation found him a room in a shared house with other ex inmates. They kicked him out when they found out what he was inside for. Seems even with hardened criminals there's a hierarchy, So he became homeless again. I allowed him to sleep on my living room floor. He reoffended. I kicked him out. I cannot tell you how much I regret letting him stay with my son and I. I'm living in fear of the case going in the press again because all the people who live around here will know who he is. I'll never ever let him stay here again when he gets back out of prison. He chose his path. He's going to have to walk it. X