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So it's looking like it's going to be a really long road to get my partner home, alot longer than we expected to be fair. He's currently living a few hours away and only my mum can supervise access with our daughter. My mums a carer and works long and lots of days and my partners a builder. Trying to catch when they both have a day off together so he can drive down to spend time with us is proving quite difficult as he's not got a car. We have spoken about him getting a place down here to make seeing our daughter easier however we don't want to piss social services off any more as j think they're enjoying that he's having to live so far. Has anyone ever moved closer to their partner or had their partner move closer to them? How did it go down?
When my OH was arrested he moved out to a shared room in the same town and that caused no issues with SS. All they cared about was if he was out of the house.
Did he have to tell the people he lived with what was going on?
As long as he is not in your property or in a property with under 18s that will be OK.
Thankyou I just didn't know If they would get shitty with him moving closer to us
They have said repeatedly they think ill allow him back in the home and not follow the safety plan even though I have done nothing to make them think that. I just didn't know if him moving closer would highten those thoughts for them.
They have said repeatedly they think ill allow him back in the home and not follow the safety plan even though I have done nothing to make them think that. I just didn't know if him moving closer would highten those thoughts for them.
a little off topic but in regards to supervised access. is it something that can happen quite quickly and do ss dictate who should supervise(I know it's unlikely to be me) I'm due a baby in 6 weeks but likely less. My partners daughter(adult) doesn't live to far away and I'd love to make sure they all have a good bond. are they really strict with times, we all know newborns don't run to a schedule. Currently not had any ss input despite me pushing for it and I know an assesment likely can't take place until after babys born.
All depends on your circumstances really. So after my partner was sentenced he was allowed home and I was able to supervise. Then his visor officer done an unannounced visit and see he was watching porn eith phrases such as "first time" and got social services back involved because they said it speaks for his state of mind. Social services have since made him leave again and said I am now unable to supervise amd only my mum can. I'm currently waiting to start the inform course and I'm doing a protective parenting assessment I'm hoping if I pass that I will atleast be able to supervise in the community whilst we carry on work to get him home but it's a really really long road.
I'd push for a parenting assessment to be done before baby gets here!
I'd push for a parenting assessment to be done before baby gets here!
Thankyou for your reply, I really hope things can move forward for you all and your husband can turn a corner with your support.
I seem to just be hitting a brick wall with ss, i suppose them knowing we are in essence separated keeps them from being concerned.
I seem to just be hitting a brick wall with ss, i suppose them knowing we are in essence separated keeps them from being concerned.
Thankyou for your reply, I really hope things can move forward for you all and your husband can turn a corner with your support.
I seem to just be hitting a brick wall with ss, i suppose them knowing we are in essence separated keeps them from being concerned.
I seem to just be hitting a brick wall with ss, i suppose them knowing we are in essence separated keeps them from being concerned.
He didn't say anything as there was no one u18 at the house share. He told his landlord we were having a break and come marital issues. I hated the lying but no one would take him in if they knew the truth and he has no family locally.
Was the police and social services OK with him not disclosing?