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Evening lovlies x
Here we are again, I have lost time this week with the days merging in to each other x
I have been back at work for 2 days and was pleased to finish earlier today for a weekend ahead :-)
I hope you are all keeping as well as can be and one new year resolution each one of you amazing people need to remember is no matter how difficult the days are you are so bloody incredible and to be kind to yourself :-)
Reading the forum getting caught up my heart is saddened to see new members and how they are struggling xx I think we can all understand and resonate with each of you who are just walking this journey, please remember we are here to offer help and support so just reach out, and if you want to please feel ok to message me xx you are absolutely not alone xx
Tomorrow plans consist of a vist to see HC his week has been extremely boring due to the holiday period and I know he is looking forward to getting his routine back next week
Myself and my daughter and her boyfriend is going tomorrow so I know it will cheer him up immensely and hopefully the canteen will have one or two nice things he can eat :-)
I hope you all manage to do something nice over the weekend and remember to wrap up warm if your venturing out is soooooo cold
Love sent as always xx
Here we are again, I have lost time this week with the days merging in to each other x
I have been back at work for 2 days and was pleased to finish earlier today for a weekend ahead :-)
I hope you are all keeping as well as can be and one new year resolution each one of you amazing people need to remember is no matter how difficult the days are you are so bloody incredible and to be kind to yourself :-)
Reading the forum getting caught up my heart is saddened to see new members and how they are struggling xx I think we can all understand and resonate with each of you who are just walking this journey, please remember we are here to offer help and support so just reach out, and if you want to please feel ok to message me xx you are absolutely not alone xx
Tomorrow plans consist of a vist to see HC his week has been extremely boring due to the holiday period and I know he is looking forward to getting his routine back next week
Myself and my daughter and her boyfriend is going tomorrow so I know it will cheer him up immensely and hopefully the canteen will have one or two nice things he can eat :-)
I hope you all manage to do something nice over the weekend and remember to wrap up warm if your venturing out is soooooo cold
Love sent as always xx
Hi upset mum!
This week I got soaked, and came close to having a frost bite. Whose idea was it to get a dog!? (I love her really.)
I too feel so sad when reading the forum, I can either relate or empathise with the tough road ahead for all. Many also read without an account and suffer in silence.
Hope it all goes well with your visit. Let us know how much of what he manages to gobble! X
This week I got soaked, and came close to having a frost bite. Whose idea was it to get a dog!? (I love her really.)
I too feel so sad when reading the forum, I can either relate or empathise with the tough road ahead for all. Many also read without an account and suffer in silence.
Hope it all goes well with your visit. Let us know how much of what he manages to gobble! X
All ok with me, glad a normal routine is creeping back. I hope the weather behaves for you tomo Upset.
i carnt believe my son has no heating! Do they do it on purpose to make prisoners suffer? If a dog was kept with no heat - there would be an uproar. They are having to keep the shower running to grab a bit of heat (disgusting). Meanwhile the staff sit in a warm toasty office!!!
Not a lot to say really - Love sent out to my dear and treasured friends.
i carnt believe my son has no heating! Do they do it on purpose to make prisoners suffer? If a dog was kept with no heat - there would be an uproar. They are having to keep the shower running to grab a bit of heat (disgusting). Meanwhile the staff sit in a warm toasty office!!!
Not a lot to say really - Love sent out to my dear and treasured friends.
We've had a very sad week as we had to have our 16 year old cat put to sleep. We are beyond devastated but taking comfort in that he'd had a good life. It's so heartbreaking when you lose a pet. Why do we do it to ourselves, eh?
OH and I have been chatting about whether this will be the year his case moves forward. I swing between desparately wanting things to progress but then again, the longer this limbo continues, the longer OH can continue working. We don't know but one of our concerns is that work will dismiss him if/when he pleads guilty to any charges. I'm sure I've read in the company procedures somewhere that a criminal offence can be treated as gross misconduct and we both feel his employer will seek to do this given the opportunity. And then there's the worry about whether we can afford to live off my salary alone. Our shopping habits would definitely need a huge overhaul.
Sending love to all xx
OH and I have been chatting about whether this will be the year his case moves forward. I swing between desparately wanting things to progress but then again, the longer this limbo continues, the longer OH can continue working. We don't know but one of our concerns is that work will dismiss him if/when he pleads guilty to any charges. I'm sure I've read in the company procedures somewhere that a criminal offence can be treated as gross misconduct and we both feel his employer will seek to do this given the opportunity. And then there's the worry about whether we can afford to live off my salary alone. Our shopping habits would definitely need a huge overhaul.
Sending love to all xx
Good evening Friday check in. I too returned to work this week so back to some normality.
I'm caught up in a restructure at work which I'd managed to put out of my mind for Christmas but now realise I have to face up to being moved into a different role. I have decided I'd rather drop down a level than compete for one of the roles at my current level so will wait and see where I'm moved to.
Upset I hope your visit tomorrow goes well and that HC is able to enjoy plenty of tasty snacks.
Smile, no heating!!! That's terrible. I hope they are making a fuss about it.
To everyone here;
'If all you've managed to do this year is survive.
If all you've managed to accomplish is to put one foot in front of the other.
If all you've gained is gratitude and all you've set down is boundaries.
It will have been enough. You are enough.'
I'm caught up in a restructure at work which I'd managed to put out of my mind for Christmas but now realise I have to face up to being moved into a different role. I have decided I'd rather drop down a level than compete for one of the roles at my current level so will wait and see where I'm moved to.
Upset I hope your visit tomorrow goes well and that HC is able to enjoy plenty of tasty snacks.
Smile, no heating!!! That's terrible. I hope they are making a fuss about it.
To everyone here;
'If all you've managed to do this year is survive.
If all you've managed to accomplish is to put one foot in front of the other.
If all you've gained is gratitude and all you've set down is boundaries.
It will have been enough. You are enough.'
Hello Friday Check in and Happy New Year,
So good to hear from all of you. I especially am trying to take in the advice to be kind to ourselves and that we are enough.
My visiting application has yet to be approved but my husband and I have been speaking on the phone regularly. He doesn't complain but he did mention he is looking forward to more routine now that the holidays are over. Regular work and programs and things like that.
I need to admit that I am in a depression, and that I am disappointed to be here as I thought sentencing would be a turning point and things would be getting better. All I want to do is sleep. I feel guilty for not being better for the kids. I'm already maxed on medications so I need to make some other changes. I'm going to try adding some walking after dinner and reaching out to friends and family for chats.
So good to hear from all of you. I especially am trying to take in the advice to be kind to ourselves and that we are enough.
My visiting application has yet to be approved but my husband and I have been speaking on the phone regularly. He doesn't complain but he did mention he is looking forward to more routine now that the holidays are over. Regular work and programs and things like that.
I need to admit that I am in a depression, and that I am disappointed to be here as I thought sentencing would be a turning point and things would be getting better. All I want to do is sleep. I feel guilty for not being better for the kids. I'm already maxed on medications so I need to make some other changes. I'm going to try adding some walking after dinner and reaching out to friends and family for chats.
Hello friday check in
well, been to my slimming class this week and from my huge gain everyone said i must have had a good xmas. Unfortunately it was the opposite, and i comfort eat and drank far more than i have in previous years. I almost never drink at home as none of my family drink much so it would be on my own. But this year i have drank alot (for me), so making the decision to stop before this becomes a comfort i cannot leave. But then i also need to get back on healthy eating. But to do this i need to exercise more. My line dancing starts back on Monday as it will be good to be back even though it means going back to work. But even that is not too bad, as a lot of you have said how routine helps, and it does. So i have decided to make myslef walk more, when i exercise i feel better, and when i feel better i stick to my eating plan, banned from calling it a diet. So for the next week i am focusing on moving more and cutting down on the food that is not good for me. That is all I am focusing on.
I have been very down so trying to focus on feeling better is my aim this week. Xmas decorations coming down tomorrow which is always sad as i love them. But needs to be done.
I hope you all have a good week. Xx
well, been to my slimming class this week and from my huge gain everyone said i must have had a good xmas. Unfortunately it was the opposite, and i comfort eat and drank far more than i have in previous years. I almost never drink at home as none of my family drink much so it would be on my own. But this year i have drank alot (for me), so making the decision to stop before this becomes a comfort i cannot leave. But then i also need to get back on healthy eating. But to do this i need to exercise more. My line dancing starts back on Monday as it will be good to be back even though it means going back to work. But even that is not too bad, as a lot of you have said how routine helps, and it does. So i have decided to make myslef walk more, when i exercise i feel better, and when i feel better i stick to my eating plan, banned from calling it a diet. So for the next week i am focusing on moving more and cutting down on the food that is not good for me. That is all I am focusing on.
I have been very down so trying to focus on feeling better is my aim this week. Xmas decorations coming down tomorrow which is always sad as i love them. But needs to be done.
I hope you all have a good week. Xx
Hi all
Will be glad to get back to a normal routine next week now Christmas is over. All decs are been put away for another year, a few pressies to be returned to the shops, wrong sizes. But the house has been cleaned to an inch of it life!
OH has a special birthday this year, so thinking of planning a little break but not sure where to go. Plus when suggested he feels like he doesn't deserve to enjoy himself. Have tried to explain that I need a break and would do us both good.
I thought after sentencing it might get easier but it doesn't feel like it, maybe the weather isn't helping.
Take care all xxxx
Will be glad to get back to a normal routine next week now Christmas is over. All decs are been put away for another year, a few pressies to be returned to the shops, wrong sizes. But the house has been cleaned to an inch of it life!
OH has a special birthday this year, so thinking of planning a little break but not sure where to go. Plus when suggested he feels like he doesn't deserve to enjoy himself. Have tried to explain that I need a break and would do us both good.
I thought after sentencing it might get easier but it doesn't feel like it, maybe the weather isn't helping.
Take care all xxxx
Hi all
Will be glad to get back to a normal routine next week now Christmas is over. All decs are been put away for another year, a few pressies to be returned to the shops, wrong sizes. But the house has been cleaned to an inch of it life!
OH has a special birthday this year, so thinking of planning a little break but not sure where to go. Plus when suggested he feels like he doesn't deserve to enjoy himself. Have tried to explain that I need a break and would do us both good.
I thought after sentencing it might get easier but it doesn't feel like it, maybe the weather isn't helping.
Take care all xxxx
Will be glad to get back to a normal routine next week now Christmas is over. All decs are been put away for another year, a few pressies to be returned to the shops, wrong sizes. But the house has been cleaned to an inch of it life!
OH has a special birthday this year, so thinking of planning a little break but not sure where to go. Plus when suggested he feels like he doesn't deserve to enjoy himself. Have tried to explain that I need a break and would do us both good.
I thought after sentencing it might get easier but it doesn't feel like it, maybe the weather isn't helping.
Take care all xxxx
I was dreading the holidays - my second alone. I had told my adult kids not to come home - there really isn't much here for them. I was counting down the days before I could go back to work - I love my job and the folk that I work with thankfully.
I spent the day itself with a friend - although not someone I know that well - but it was lovely for her to invite me to spend the day with her family.
But it hasn't been that bad. I've connected with a friend and we have been out for walks, coffee and the odd meal and it's made the holidays so much more bearable. They didn't know about my history - I assumed they did. Goes to show we think everyone knows - but they don't. Wasn't pleasant going through a potted history - but they haven't done a runner yet.
The main thing I've taken from this holiday is how nice it has been to do exactly what I like and not have to take anyone else's feelings I to consideration. Makes me sound selfish. But I feel finally I am coming out of this nightmare and this is my time.
I'm so sorry for all of you still going through this most awful of rollercoaster rides. Looking back I could never have seen the place where I am now.
We are all so much stronger than we realise - it's a shame we can't see it at the time.
As for my person - we wished each other happy Christmas but I have no idea how he spent too his time.
I spent the day itself with a friend - although not someone I know that well - but it was lovely for her to invite me to spend the day with her family.
But it hasn't been that bad. I've connected with a friend and we have been out for walks, coffee and the odd meal and it's made the holidays so much more bearable. They didn't know about my history - I assumed they did. Goes to show we think everyone knows - but they don't. Wasn't pleasant going through a potted history - but they haven't done a runner yet.
The main thing I've taken from this holiday is how nice it has been to do exactly what I like and not have to take anyone else's feelings I to consideration. Makes me sound selfish. But I feel finally I am coming out of this nightmare and this is my time.
I'm so sorry for all of you still going through this most awful of rollercoaster rides. Looking back I could never have seen the place where I am now.
We are all so much stronger than we realise - it's a shame we can't see it at the time.
As for my person - we wished each other happy Christmas but I have no idea how he spent too his time.
I was dreading the holidays - my second alone. I had told my adult kids not to come home - there really isn't much here for them. I was counting down the days before I could go back to work - I love my job and the folk that I work with thankfully.
I spent the day itself with a friend - although not someone I know that well - but it was lovely for her to invite me to spend the day with her family.
But it hasn't been that bad. I've connected with a friend and we have been out for walks, coffee and the odd meal and it's made the holidays so much more bearable. They didn't know about my history - I assumed they did. Goes to show we think everyone knows - but they don't. Wasn't pleasant going through a potted history - but they haven't done a runner yet.
The main thing I've taken from this holiday is how nice it has been to do exactly what I like and not have to take anyone else's feelings I to consideration. Makes me sound selfish. But I feel finally I am coming out of this nightmare and this is my time.
I'm so sorry for all of you still going through this most awful of rollercoaster rides. Looking back I could never have seen the place where I am now.
We are all so much stronger than we realise - it's a shame we can't see it at the time.
As for my person - we wished each other happy Christmas but I have no idea how he spent too his time.
I spent the day itself with a friend - although not someone I know that well - but it was lovely for her to invite me to spend the day with her family.
But it hasn't been that bad. I've connected with a friend and we have been out for walks, coffee and the odd meal and it's made the holidays so much more bearable. They didn't know about my history - I assumed they did. Goes to show we think everyone knows - but they don't. Wasn't pleasant going through a potted history - but they haven't done a runner yet.
The main thing I've taken from this holiday is how nice it has been to do exactly what I like and not have to take anyone else's feelings I to consideration. Makes me sound selfish. But I feel finally I am coming out of this nightmare and this is my time.
I'm so sorry for all of you still going through this most awful of rollercoaster rides. Looking back I could never have seen the place where I am now.
We are all so much stronger than we realise - it's a shame we can't see it at the time.
As for my person - we wished each other happy Christmas but I have no idea how he spent too his time.
I'm hoping you all have a better New Year and things work out well for you this year I've worked over most of the Christmas holidays and New Year's. Try and keep myself busy and my mind occupied rather than what's really going on
i'm so sorry Runawaygirl that you've lost your cat it's not the best time of year to lose one not that losing a pet at any time of year is goodIhave five of them and they have been a great source of comfort to me over the last 12 months I really do feel for you
so my best friend who was given three months to live is still just about with me and despite everything she still proves to be a great source of comfort to me and admiration and I'm sure what it should be the other way round, but she continues to support me
I can only hope that this year turns out to be a better year for all of us and thank you all for your love, kindness and support xxxx
i'm so sorry Runawaygirl that you've lost your cat it's not the best time of year to lose one not that losing a pet at any time of year is goodIhave five of them and they have been a great source of comfort to me over the last 12 months I really do feel for you
so my best friend who was given three months to live is still just about with me and despite everything she still proves to be a great source of comfort to me and admiration and I'm sure what it should be the other way round, but she continues to support me
I can only hope that this year turns out to be a better year for all of us and thank you all for your love, kindness and support xxxx
Hi Friday Check in
in some ways I'm glad the holidays are over but I loathe January - always have. Been a bit low over the last few days but I've decided that I need to have a bit more time in the office - currently only there 2 mornings a week and working from home the rest of the time. I enjoy my job and my colleagues are wonderful - 2 know the situation and are supportive.
today I'm wedding dress shopping with my youngest daughter. I'll probably cry (again) but it'll be happy tears to see her joy.
taking things one day at a time and sending love to all. Xx
in some ways I'm glad the holidays are over but I loathe January - always have. Been a bit low over the last few days but I've decided that I need to have a bit more time in the office - currently only there 2 mornings a week and working from home the rest of the time. I enjoy my job and my colleagues are wonderful - 2 know the situation and are supportive.
today I'm wedding dress shopping with my youngest daughter. I'll probably cry (again) but it'll be happy tears to see her joy.
taking things one day at a time and sending love to all. Xx