Hi,

I've seen your other post as well and please know you're not alone. I also found images on my partners devices around July and reported it to the police and ended the relationship. It is a really difficult position to be in and not an easy thing to pick up the phone but you did the right thing! People will not fully understand unless they have been in the situation themselves, no matter what they say.

The first few months were awful and I didn't think I wanted to be in a relationship with him again but we have reconnected and are trying to make things work, though I know o won't have peace of mind until the investigation is over, he has assured me he has told me everything.



re: the contact with him questions on your other post. As part of my partners bail conditions he was not allowed contact with me and it was agreed he had to stay at another address until I agreed he could come back (though this wasn't a bail condition as such, the police advised us if we wanted to contact each other in the early stages we'd have to go through a mutual third party eg. Family member or friend). I then asked the police to lift the no contact restriction after a few weeks so it really does depend on what his bail conditions are. If you have a contact with the police I would recommend asking them what's allowed.

We also used to work together so have mutual friends there which has made it a bit difficult as not everyone knows. I can't see any reason why you're employer would have any work related issues with you but you may need to report your circumstances to HR as some organisations require you to let them know if you're part of a criminal investigation or maybe if you have a DBS or anything. In my case, as is yours, the police probably informed you you may have to attend court at a later date to be a witness? So worth checking with HR or your employee guidance.



Stay strong and be kind to yourself, it will get a bit easier in time but it's okay to have bad days.