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This is going to be a long post please bare with me. My husband was arrested in July on allegations of sexual activity with a under under 16. He had been reported by our friend but I had given her the evidence not knowing she was going to report it. He got bailed to return in a month.with some restrictions to his dad's house as I didn't think he was allowed here. Our children are daughter 4 son 9 an they didn't get to see there daddy for 2 weeks social kept saying how serious it was an that it was hard for me as I had been with him many years. They hadn't assigned sw as they was sure if I needed one I think they thought I did just walk away from him. I kept ringing an leaving a message
His bail was extended for 3 month's
Once they finally got in touch they sed he cud have contact but I cudnt supervise it had to be someone else that I chose so his dad did it and I was allowed to be there. I rang them a few times over the summer holidays but didn't hear bad. I phoned them on first day bac of school to say we had been assigned a sw.she came out to see me that week and later that day to see the children an look round the house. I told her from the beginning I was hoping for me an my husband to have some sort of life together after this which she sed was a concern.
We received a child in need meeting later. So did my husband he contacted her for her to explain about an she arranged to see him were it was recommended that he did not have to attend due to the way you he was. Scared of leaving house rumors going round seen doctor ECT. She also spoke to his dad . I saw her again before the meeting to go through family ECT.
Day of meeting was end of sept there was sw staff member from school me and my friend. Was told home was fine no problems with school or health visitor hadn't contacted docs. She asked about routine for the children how often they see there dad which I sed every day even if just for half hr or having tea there. I was asked to respect the other family as she other children at same school and not walk with my friend to do school pick if I don't need to be there, wasn't until I left an thought about but I was upset that some one is watching me all the time an keeping tabs I haven't done wrong an it's wasn't anythibg new we have always walked together weather 1 child is at club or not. She asked again about my thoughts of been with my husband I repeated I wanted to still be with him she asked how I did make it work. I told her I was not entirely sure but I wud do wat ever I needed to do I new he wud not be able to be alone an that wud not be problem an I wud do any courses that I cud to show I can protect my children as well. She was unsure if there was any courses but sed she had look into it. She sed she wud recommend that I cannot soley supervise I asked if this wud be forever an she sed yes that's my recommendation as you are clouded by love. Seems that she not giving me the chance to prove myself I was very upset by this as means we can never have any sort of life. Meeting finished saying that the plan was to carry on as we are for now.
His bail was extended again Oct for another 3 months I still have not had any contact from the police who are meant to update me every 28 days.
I contacted her in Oct to ask if he was allowed to come to a theme park for the weekend as was booked months ago she sed that was fine as long as he sleeps in a separate room an his dad or our friend is there to supervise. I was upset as we had to cancel a caravan holiday in summer due to no contact an thinking he didn't be allowed to go. I then had to ring an ask if he was allowed in the pool that we had tickets for also that weekend. She sed no but could spectat. IPlayer messaged saying I did not see the difference from spectating to been in the pool as in the same room or any different from us been at the beach ECT. She later contacted saying he could now go in the pool had to protect himself an not interact with others.
We have just had a great weekend away very hard emotionally due to still not knowing what is going to happen to my husband what social are going to say and why they will not trust me to supetvise. I have not heard from her since I last contacted her.
My husband made the biggest mistake if his life. He is very remorseful now he has done so wrong and is disgusted with himself.
This is going to be a long post please bare with me. My husband was arrested in July on allegations of sexual activity with a under under 16. He had been reported by our friend but I had given her the evidence not knowing she was going to report it. He got bailed to return in a month.with some restrictions to his dad's house as I didn't think he was allowed here. Our children are daughter 4 son 9 an they didn't get to see there daddy for 2 weeks social kept saying how serious it was an that it was hard for me as I had been with him many years. They hadn't assigned sw as they was sure if I needed one I think they thought I did just walk away from him. I kept ringing an leaving a message
His bail was extended for 3 month's
Once they finally got in touch they sed he cud have contact but I cudnt supervise it had to be someone else that I chose so his dad did it and I was allowed to be there. I rang them a few times over the summer holidays but didn't hear bad. I phoned them on first day bac of school to say we had been assigned a sw.she came out to see me that week and later that day to see the children an look round the house. I told her from the beginning I was hoping for me an my husband to have some sort of life together after this which she sed was a concern.
We received a child in need meeting later. So did my husband he contacted her for her to explain about an she arranged to see him were it was recommended that he did not have to attend due to the way you he was. Scared of leaving house rumors going round seen doctor ECT. She also spoke to his dad . I saw her again before the meeting to go through family ECT.
Day of meeting was end of sept there was sw staff member from school me and my friend. Was told home was fine no problems with school or health visitor hadn't contacted docs. She asked about routine for the children how often they see there dad which I sed every day even if just for half hr or having tea there. I was asked to respect the other family as she other children at same school and not walk with my friend to do school pick if I don't need to be there, wasn't until I left an thought about but I was upset that some one is watching me all the time an keeping tabs I haven't done wrong an it's wasn't anythibg new we have always walked together weather 1 child is at club or not. She asked again about my thoughts of been with my husband I repeated I wanted to still be with him she asked how I did make it work. I told her I was not entirely sure but I wud do wat ever I needed to do I new he wud not be able to be alone an that wud not be problem an I wud do any courses that I cud to show I can protect my children as well. She was unsure if there was any courses but sed she had look into it. She sed she wud recommend that I cannot soley supervise I asked if this wud be forever an she sed yes that's my recommendation as you are clouded by love. Seems that she not giving me the chance to prove myself I was very upset by this as means we can never have any sort of life. Meeting finished saying that the plan was to carry on as we are for now.
His bail was extended again Oct for another 3 months I still have not had any contact from the police who are meant to update me every 28 days.
I contacted her in Oct to ask if he was allowed to come to a theme park for the weekend as was booked months ago she sed that was fine as long as he sleeps in a separate room an his dad or our friend is there to supervise. I was upset as we had to cancel a caravan holiday in summer due to no contact an thinking he didn't be allowed to go. I then had to ring an ask if he was allowed in the pool that we had tickets for also that weekend. She sed no but could spectat. IPlayer messaged saying I did not see the difference from spectating to been in the pool as in the same room or any different from us been at the beach ECT. She later contacted saying he could now go in the pool had to protect himself an not interact with others.
We have just had a great weekend away very hard emotionally due to still not knowing what is going to happen to my husband what social are going to say and why they will not trust me to supetvise. I have not heard from her since I last contacted her.
My husband made the biggest mistake if his life. He is very remorseful now he has done so wrong and is disgusted with himself.