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What happens to my children if I die?!

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Tabbycat

Member since
December 2024

5 posts

Posted Tue January 7, 2025 8:58amReport post

This might seem a silly thing to worry about, but I have young children and we are early days in this process. It occurred to me how if I die in the next few years, my children will likely have to live with my parents and my OH probably come to visit more. But my parents themseleves are 70ish and may not live or be particularly healthy until my children are 16. So what does that mean?! My OH can't have them in his own if he can't even do drop offs surely?! Has anyone else had any worries like this and any thoughts? Or conversations with SS about this?!

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

408 posts

Posted Tue January 7, 2025 1:23pmReport post

I'm scared of this, too.

At the moment my husband is allowed to be in our house, while I supervise.

My parents are in their 60s, unfit and completely unable to look after 3 children.

My sister has 3 children herself, but she would be incapable of looking after mine.

She's volatile, screams a lot, has been abusive in the past and it wouldn't be a good upbringing for my kids.