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My family are applying pressure and are not happy with me at all ...they're not directly telling me to leave my OH but are seriously adding to my already gigantic fear about my kids in all of this. Have I taken on too much? Have I been blindsided by my love and devotion to the man who's made me the happiest I've ever been?
SS coming later for initial chat, kids took the news brilliantly last night and although understand how serious it was they confirmed they feel safe & comfortable and like having him around. I told them both that if it ever gets too much I would leave him to protect them. It terrifies me that that day might come, our only way out of all this, is if it doesn't hit the media and we can manage things behind the scenes - the cruelty of it all is drowning me.
Why did this have to happen? I feel so at a loss - trying to take one step at a time, but it seems my family aren't taking the time to speak to me about my approach to it all and are letting their fears override everything. Should I cool things off with my OH until this is all over, I simply don't know what to do for the best. My heart and head are saying one step at a time because none of us know what will happen and my shame and guilt for my kids is creeping in.



I have to park things today as I'm starting my new job ...awful timing!
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Feeling much better than I did this morning! We've had our initial meeting with SS, she was really lovely. I took a lot from it and I think it's helped give me some grounding about the situation. The boys were fab and I can now see that I need to embrace SS support for my boys (for which I'm grateful) and take on board their recommendations and not fear them. At the end of the day our combined focus is the kids and if I can maintain my relationship with my OH (even from a safe distance then that works great for me). Should this all come out, I won't be afraid to revisit my relationship, I truly won't let my boys come to harm and will actively avoid and protect them from any disruption in their lives.



However I will also be cautious because I know that words can be twisted and I want them to see I can be a protective parent - if anyone can share any advice on how they demonstrated protective parenting that would be really helpful. She's back next Tuesday so want to demonstrate I've reflected on what she said, taken it on board etc.



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