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Well I for one am glad to be back in to my normal routine following on from the festive time, a full normal week at work all be it a bit manic but it's gone so fast!
It's my eldest sons Birthday tomorrow (34) crazy how it goes so quickly, so no vist this weekend with HC,
Talking of HC he is also so glad to be back in to his routine and has been doing a fair bit of work on his degree, he was due to have a call with his tutor yesterday so hopefully that went ahead, he will call over the weekend so will let me know how it went, x
So for me this weekend it will be some food shopping, bit of housework and then just relax and no doubt binge watching something on the TV, I just finished watching C4 Walter presents drama The Wall , I dont usually watch subtitle series but was really good
I saw a clip earlier of Jamie Lee Curtis reinacting with Jimmy Fallon from the tonight show the scene from Perfect oh my goodness if you need a good chuckle then watch it ( for the younger ladies on her it was originally with John Travolta)
Well that's enough from me ( I do tend to prattle on) :-)
I hope.you all have a good weekend x
Love sent as always xx
Hope you are all doing ok x
Well I for one am glad to be back in to my normal routine following on from the festive time, a full normal week at work all be it a bit manic but it's gone so fast!
It's my eldest sons Birthday tomorrow (34) crazy how it goes so quickly, so no vist this weekend with HC,
Talking of HC he is also so glad to be back in to his routine and has been doing a fair bit of work on his degree, he was due to have a call with his tutor yesterday so hopefully that went ahead, he will call over the weekend so will let me know how it went, x
So for me this weekend it will be some food shopping, bit of housework and then just relax and no doubt binge watching something on the TV, I just finished watching C4 Walter presents drama The Wall , I dont usually watch subtitle series but was really good
I saw a clip earlier of Jamie Lee Curtis reinacting with Jimmy Fallon from the tonight show the scene from Perfect oh my goodness if you need a good chuckle then watch it ( for the younger ladies on her it was originally with John Travolta)
Well that's enough from me ( I do tend to prattle on) :-)
I hope.you all have a good weekend x
Love sent as always xx
Sending love to everyone here - I have been a bit absent of late because of family issues not related to the knock.
I am also glad to be back in a bit of a routine again although my body is complaining a bit about exercising again!!!
We are doing ok and son is continuing to make good progress- in a couple of weeks he will be 2 years post sentencing with one more year left on his community order.
We have adjusted to our "new normal " and whilst this is not at all the life I ever imagined for myself at this stage it has gradually got easier and there are more positive days than I ever thought possible.
As always love and strength to everyone and please always remember that I am here for you all xxx
I am also glad to be back in a bit of a routine again although my body is complaining a bit about exercising again!!!
We are doing ok and son is continuing to make good progress- in a couple of weeks he will be 2 years post sentencing with one more year left on his community order.
We have adjusted to our "new normal " and whilst this is not at all the life I ever imagined for myself at this stage it has gradually got easier and there are more positive days than I ever thought possible.
As always love and strength to everyone and please always remember that I am here for you all xxx
Hi Upset - hi ladies. Happy birthday to your eldest and yes it is terrifying how time flies.
gosh I'm SO fed up of this weather, apart from continually defrosting the car - the slippery roads and pavements have been a nightmare. I slipped over yesterday- flat on the floor - felt such a Pratt, thankfully no damage done.
The boy now has heat in his 'room' was on the verge of complaining direct to the prison when along comes Mr plumber to do his deed. Now on lockdown due to cases of nurovirus...... never a dull moment, but my boy keeps cheerful through it all.
John Trovolta - quite a hunk in his day, loved the Sat Night Fever era and still feel an urge to burst into spontaneous dance when I hear those bee gee tracks....... not a pleasent sight!
love to everyone on here, chin up & keep strong xxxxxxx
gosh I'm SO fed up of this weather, apart from continually defrosting the car - the slippery roads and pavements have been a nightmare. I slipped over yesterday- flat on the floor - felt such a Pratt, thankfully no damage done.
The boy now has heat in his 'room' was on the verge of complaining direct to the prison when along comes Mr plumber to do his deed. Now on lockdown due to cases of nurovirus...... never a dull moment, but my boy keeps cheerful through it all.
John Trovolta - quite a hunk in his day, loved the Sat Night Fever era and still feel an urge to burst into spontaneous dance when I hear those bee gee tracks....... not a pleasent sight!
love to everyone on here, chin up & keep strong xxxxxxx
Hello
had a pretty rubbish week with our SW twisting things, looking in putting a complaint before it gets any worse and looking towards moving house to be near my support as im really struggling with everything and its becoming overwhelming. (and we would get a new SW too as we would be in a different area). other plus is id be closer to my OH so more opportunites to have time as a couple and rebuild things that we desperately need as im losing hope of a future for my family.
OH has his sentencing next wednesday and had his pre-sentence report done this week which he said went really well, the PO said he sees this 3/4 times a week and although not minimising or condoning it, that this was really low level compared to what they would usually see and in all his years of doing this, he has never put forward the recommendations as low as he is goiing too. (he also confirmed he would be his PO ) so its gave us hope. he said although the judge dont have to follow the recommendations, 9 times out of 10 she does and hes worked with her for longer my OH has been alive so fingers crossed.
Strangely though i am not worried about the court, i am really stressed to the point of no sleep and cant eat of the possibilty of the media/press being there. They havent been so far so im hoping that luck continues throughout.
although i did have a argument with OH about our SW as he wants to put a complaint in as does his parents due to recent issues but im worried it will have more negative impact and make things worse but ive drafted a complaint email anyway just incase im pushed and cant take it anymore.
consequently i did say i think we should part ways as im tired of hoping for a future and it having been ripped apart by SW and i dont know if i can continue living in dissapointment and lack of hope until they turn 18 (children are 3,6 and 7) so its a long time.
I feel happy we are approaching the end of this journey, petrified about press/Media and mentally drained and overwhelmed by the lack of support from our SW and nothing but judgment from her. Get excited with the chance of moving as a fresh start and children are happy with that but fearful i want it too much and it becomes like an inpossible task.
however im visiting my parents tomorrow so can offload there before returnig home, holding tears until the children are in bed before i breakdown and question my life.
i am ready to move on but whilst we have the SW we have, that isnt even close to being possible.
anyway rant over, hope you all have a lovely weekend
(also how quick is january going already...or could be just me ha ha) xxx
had a pretty rubbish week with our SW twisting things, looking in putting a complaint before it gets any worse and looking towards moving house to be near my support as im really struggling with everything and its becoming overwhelming. (and we would get a new SW too as we would be in a different area). other plus is id be closer to my OH so more opportunites to have time as a couple and rebuild things that we desperately need as im losing hope of a future for my family.
OH has his sentencing next wednesday and had his pre-sentence report done this week which he said went really well, the PO said he sees this 3/4 times a week and although not minimising or condoning it, that this was really low level compared to what they would usually see and in all his years of doing this, he has never put forward the recommendations as low as he is goiing too. (he also confirmed he would be his PO ) so its gave us hope. he said although the judge dont have to follow the recommendations, 9 times out of 10 she does and hes worked with her for longer my OH has been alive so fingers crossed.
Strangely though i am not worried about the court, i am really stressed to the point of no sleep and cant eat of the possibilty of the media/press being there. They havent been so far so im hoping that luck continues throughout.
although i did have a argument with OH about our SW as he wants to put a complaint in as does his parents due to recent issues but im worried it will have more negative impact and make things worse but ive drafted a complaint email anyway just incase im pushed and cant take it anymore.
consequently i did say i think we should part ways as im tired of hoping for a future and it having been ripped apart by SW and i dont know if i can continue living in dissapointment and lack of hope until they turn 18 (children are 3,6 and 7) so its a long time.
I feel happy we are approaching the end of this journey, petrified about press/Media and mentally drained and overwhelmed by the lack of support from our SW and nothing but judgment from her. Get excited with the chance of moving as a fresh start and children are happy with that but fearful i want it too much and it becomes like an inpossible task.
however im visiting my parents tomorrow so can offload there before returnig home, holding tears until the children are in bed before i breakdown and question my life.
i am ready to move on but whilst we have the SW we have, that isnt even close to being possible.
anyway rant over, hope you all have a lovely weekend
(also how quick is january going already...or could be just me ha ha) xxx
It's a bit of a mixed week here too between the heavy snow and other matters hanging obver us. My dad has received his first contact with the social work to begin his pre-sentencing report but the solicitor is unwell and his sentencing is likely to be moved but I've organised the time off for the current day. While I have sympathy for being ill (it must be significant as sentencing is in 3 weeks) but he hasn't been particularly helpful.
Thank Goodness for the lovely people here and Stop it now or I would be an utter wreck. Happy Fridays.
Thank Goodness for the lovely people here and Stop it now or I would be an utter wreck. Happy Fridays.
Hi all,
Week not too bad and routine of my kids in school/college.
Contacted OIC for update over my son but heard nothing back yet. They are useless so kind of didn't expect to. Just hate the waiting game and impact on him when he's still a child.
Week not too bad and routine of my kids in school/college.
Contacted OIC for update over my son but heard nothing back yet. They are useless so kind of didn't expect to. Just hate the waiting game and impact on him when he's still a child.
Hi
Started back at work this week on a phased return after 3 months off work. Was nice to not be totally consumed with what's happened. Felt really nice doing normal things but on the back of that low moods when I remember. Small steps.
Started back at work this week on a phased return after 3 months off work. Was nice to not be totally consumed with what's happened. Felt really nice doing normal things but on the back of that low moods when I remember. Small steps.
Hello Friday Check in
i cant help feeling a little despondent tonight despite having a fairly good week. We were supposed to be flying to Tenerife tomorrow for our annual winter break (I loathe January in the U.K.). With the new ETIAS laws coming in it's unlikely that we will be able to go there (or most other EU countries) for the foreseeable and that makes me so sad.
Still - summer breaks in the U.K. are also wonderful - a pretty stone cottage in the middle of nowhere, with glorious walks and a nearby pub!
In the meantime we wait in limbo (and on bail) for forensics to be concluded - and we all know how long that can take. 5 months in and the waiting is becoming our new normal.
Happy weekend to all and hugs to those who need it xx
i cant help feeling a little despondent tonight despite having a fairly good week. We were supposed to be flying to Tenerife tomorrow for our annual winter break (I loathe January in the U.K.). With the new ETIAS laws coming in it's unlikely that we will be able to go there (or most other EU countries) for the foreseeable and that makes me so sad.
Still - summer breaks in the U.K. are also wonderful - a pretty stone cottage in the middle of nowhere, with glorious walks and a nearby pub!
In the meantime we wait in limbo (and on bail) for forensics to be concluded - and we all know how long that can take. 5 months in and the waiting is becoming our new normal.
Happy weekend to all and hugs to those who need it xx
Smile x
That made me chuckle, glad your ice fall didn't end up more serious but I had a vision of you whilst slipping busting out in a BeeGee's song! My warped sense of humor! xx :-) xx
That made me chuckle, glad your ice fall didn't end up more serious but I had a vision of you whilst slipping busting out in a BeeGee's song! My warped sense of humor! xx :-) xx
Mare x
Oh lovely you have so much going on, I dont have experience with SS but there are so many amazing ladies on here that do and can offer you some much needed support xx
I wish you both all the very best outcome on Wednesday, we will be right there virtually holding your hand xx
As for the Media this is something we have no control over and that was my worst fear but do you know as hard as it is it DOES not warrant you wasting your energy thinking about it, of course it hurts knowing its out there but as far as this Journey goes you have been so incredibly strong so try not to overthink ( easier said than done I know)
Of course there is a future and once you know the outcome you will be able to build a new way of life xx
Oh lovely you have so much going on, I dont have experience with SS but there are so many amazing ladies on here that do and can offer you some much needed support xx
I wish you both all the very best outcome on Wednesday, we will be right there virtually holding your hand xx
As for the Media this is something we have no control over and that was my worst fear but do you know as hard as it is it DOES not warrant you wasting your energy thinking about it, of course it hurts knowing its out there but as far as this Journey goes you have been so incredibly strong so try not to overthink ( easier said than done I know)
Of course there is a future and once you know the outcome you will be able to build a new way of life xx
Hi Upset mum,
Happiest birthday to your eldest!
It's been soooo cold. I love the bones of my dog but it's not fun walking her at 8am in icy grass. We walk past very same dog owners every morning, and some push a pram as I do. Takes me hours to warm up afterwards!
I feel a thousand feelings on any given day but I think on average this week was 7 out of 10.
Roll on next one. X
Happiest birthday to your eldest!
It's been soooo cold. I love the bones of my dog but it's not fun walking her at 8am in icy grass. We walk past very same dog owners every morning, and some push a pram as I do. Takes me hours to warm up afterwards!
I feel a thousand feelings on any given day but I think on average this week was 7 out of 10.
Roll on next one. X
Hi Upset mum,
Happiest birthday to your eldest!
It's been soooo cold. I love the bones of my dog but it's not fun walking her at 8am in icy grass. We walk past very same dog owners every morning, and some push a pram as I do. Takes me hours to warm up afterwards!
I feel a thousand feelings on any given day but I think on average this week was 7 out of 10.
Roll on next one. X
Happiest birthday to your eldest!
It's been soooo cold. I love the bones of my dog but it's not fun walking her at 8am in icy grass. We walk past very same dog owners every morning, and some push a pram as I do. Takes me hours to warm up afterwards!
I feel a thousand feelings on any given day but I think on average this week was 7 out of 10.
Roll on next one. X
Lost xx
Aww I can imagine how devastating it is for you ( a bit of heat and sunshine in January)
However the idea of a cottage in the uk ( we have some incredible places) just not the sunshine, heating on, snuggled up, just getting away, time to recharge, but most importantly a Pub nearby, definitely xx
Aww I can imagine how devastating it is for you ( a bit of heat and sunshine in January)
However the idea of a cottage in the uk ( we have some incredible places) just not the sunshine, heating on, snuggled up, just getting away, time to recharge, but most importantly a Pub nearby, definitely xx
Flower xx
So lovely to hear from you x
How are you all doing apart from the cold morning walks xx
How is little one? x
So lovely to hear from you x
How are you all doing apart from the cold morning walks xx
How is little one? x
Aw thank you!
Little one is doing well, weaning and trying lots of new foods. Salmon is a favorite and really likes broccoli but couliflower is yuck yuck. Not for human consumption! I find that every time I mentioned this lots of adults agree!
I'm doing OK - thank you, lots of ups and downs. Still in the midst of a shit storm.
Little one is doing well, weaning and trying lots of new foods. Salmon is a favorite and really likes broccoli but couliflower is yuck yuck. Not for human consumption! I find that every time I mentioned this lots of adults agree!
I'm doing OK - thank you, lots of ups and downs. Still in the midst of a shit storm.
Flower x
Aww I remember those days oh so well cooking food for the little ones thinking there is no way would I be tempted to eat that! haha
Each day is a new day and never forget just how far you have come lovely xx
Aww I remember those days oh so well cooking food for the little ones thinking there is no way would I be tempted to eat that! haha
Each day is a new day and never forget just how far you have come lovely xx
Happy Friday check-in,
I just love hearing from you all on Fridays. So many of us just getting on with life. Birthdays and dog walks and all the other stuff going on.
This weekend I will be cleaning the house, ordering some groceries, and visiting the in-laws. My boys always love going to Grandma and Grandpa's so that will be fun.
My husband and I have been reading the same book and talking about it. It's been really nice to have something to talk about that isn't related to his offending. I'm getting glimpses of compassion for him. And flickers of some loving feelings that I haven't had in a while. It's been 18 months but it's also been a lifetime.
Take care everyone.
I just love hearing from you all on Fridays. So many of us just getting on with life. Birthdays and dog walks and all the other stuff going on.
This weekend I will be cleaning the house, ordering some groceries, and visiting the in-laws. My boys always love going to Grandma and Grandpa's so that will be fun.
My husband and I have been reading the same book and talking about it. It's been really nice to have something to talk about that isn't related to his offending. I'm getting glimpses of compassion for him. And flickers of some loving feelings that I haven't had in a while. It's been 18 months but it's also been a lifetime.
Take care everyone.
Hello friday check in.
My week has been to get back to work and get back to my line dancing. Nothing much to report really. Upset hope your son has a nice birthday and i hope everyone manages some fun this weekend.
I am going on a walk tomorrow and working Sunday. Hey ho....still paying the car off, well the garage costs on repairs. Trying to not get angry about it especially as i think something else is wrong with OH car. It is never ending.
But smile and breathe and I am taking my youngest furbaby with me tomorrow. Both of my furbabies keep a smile on my face, and all you lovely people on here.
Happy weekend.... xx
My week has been to get back to work and get back to my line dancing. Nothing much to report really. Upset hope your son has a nice birthday and i hope everyone manages some fun this weekend.
I am going on a walk tomorrow and working Sunday. Hey ho....still paying the car off, well the garage costs on repairs. Trying to not get angry about it especially as i think something else is wrong with OH car. It is never ending.
But smile and breathe and I am taking my youngest furbaby with me tomorrow. Both of my furbabies keep a smile on my face, and all you lovely people on here.
Happy weekend.... xx
Hello Friday Check In
Feeling very flat at the moment and struggling to think straight!
Hoping a good night sleep will help, that's if I can stop the racing thoughts!
take care all x
Feeling very flat at the moment and struggling to think straight!
Hoping a good night sleep will help, that's if I can stop the racing thoughts!
take care all x
very grateful for a busy week.
Will be 36 weeks pregnant Tuesday, so plowed ahead decluttering and building baby furniture. Wasn't something I'd even envisaged doing alone, had a little wobble every now and then but it had to be done.
My sons been stressed about mock exams, missed his school bus once meaning I had to do the 2 hour round trip to drop him off. Another thing that took my mind off how difficult things are going to be.
Social worked said she would visit later in the week to talk about my request for OH to have some supervised access once baby was here but heard or saw nothing of her. Realising times ticking on that front so unlikely to have anything in place before baby actually arrives.
Today was my first day of maternity leave although I've been on the sick for 3 weeks. popped in to show my face in work yesterday, it's quite bittersweet, works always helped when I've needed to just forget the everyday stresses.
Today is also likely the last time I'll be babysitting the grandson(oh daughters eldest) for a little while. OH messages this afternoon about how much of his life he's going to miss out in brings home how little bond he's going to have with our baby.
it's only been 3 weeks since the knock and some days are horrific, I do have dark thoughts but I'm glad to be feeling like I can do this alone. The plans going forward will obviously be extremely different and difficult but I've gotta make it work.
Will be 36 weeks pregnant Tuesday, so plowed ahead decluttering and building baby furniture. Wasn't something I'd even envisaged doing alone, had a little wobble every now and then but it had to be done.
My sons been stressed about mock exams, missed his school bus once meaning I had to do the 2 hour round trip to drop him off. Another thing that took my mind off how difficult things are going to be.
Social worked said she would visit later in the week to talk about my request for OH to have some supervised access once baby was here but heard or saw nothing of her. Realising times ticking on that front so unlikely to have anything in place before baby actually arrives.
Today was my first day of maternity leave although I've been on the sick for 3 weeks. popped in to show my face in work yesterday, it's quite bittersweet, works always helped when I've needed to just forget the everyday stresses.
Today is also likely the last time I'll be babysitting the grandson(oh daughters eldest) for a little while. OH messages this afternoon about how much of his life he's going to miss out in brings home how little bond he's going to have with our baby.
it's only been 3 weeks since the knock and some days are horrific, I do have dark thoughts but I'm glad to be feeling like I can do this alone. The plans going forward will obviously be extremely different and difficult but I've gotta make it work.
Lonely x
I am so sorry to read you are struggling please please reach out to us and also feel free to message me, always here to offer support xx
I am so sorry to read you are struggling please please reach out to us and also feel free to message me, always here to offer support xx
Hello all.
Hope everyone hadvas good a Christmas as possible.
Was back to work on Monday and what a hectic week it's been, what with a fresh batch of new starters etc.
My second youngest had his first uni offer yesterday, so he's over the moon with that! Next one up his just sent his ucas application off (he dropped out of college for a year and went back when his younger brother started college).
I'm just sad that my person struggled with online learning over covid and dropped out. I honestly think that the boredom of being on his own all day over such a long period had a lot to do with everything... he's so angry with himself over the situation..
Hope everyone hadvas good a Christmas as possible.
Was back to work on Monday and what a hectic week it's been, what with a fresh batch of new starters etc.
My second youngest had his first uni offer yesterday, so he's over the moon with that! Next one up his just sent his ucas application off (he dropped out of college for a year and went back when his younger brother started college).
I'm just sad that my person struggled with online learning over covid and dropped out. I honestly think that the boredom of being on his own all day over such a long period had a lot to do with everything... he's so angry with himself over the situation..