Feeling anxious
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on Thursday, it will be a year since the knock I don't know why for some reason I feel quite anxious about it my OH still hasn't heard back from the police and they still possess his devices I just think if it should have moved onto the next stage by now maybe that's why I'm feeling anxious because I know hopefully it will be sorry guys. I just needed to put it out there how I was feeling xx
I can offer you not a lot but my thoughts.
I'm way way past your stage (years) but as much as I try I'm still affected by what's happened to my son & family. Triggers frequently occur and I still get anxious. It's really horrible and I do sympathise.
im sure the lovely ladies on hers will support you and offer you advice . Bless xxxx
I'm way way past your stage (years) but as much as I try I'm still affected by what's happened to my son & family. Triggers frequently occur and I still get anxious. It's really horrible and I do sympathise.
im sure the lovely ladies on hers will support you and offer you advice . Bless xxxx
From my experience (2nd anniversary soon!) this first one approaching is awful as you become aware that this time last year life was normal and little did you know what was about to happen. So no wonder we can have strong flashbacks and feel immensely triggered.
Then that anniversary comes and goes (another horrible day) but thereafter it has become your new normal and in fact you discover how in some tiny ways things aren't quite as dreadful as they were a year ago, although they are still the most dreadful thing ever in their entirety. So it might be that you remember you couldn't eat a thing back then but now you can, or that you felt you would lose all your friends but in fact a few wonderful ones are still there. That is how it made me feel anyway and this year it is becoming 'just' another date in my calendar rather than looming on the horizon shouting 'look at me!' It's not pleasant but won't overwhelm me (I hope!)
Please be kind to yourself and allow the feelings to exist, the tears to flow - whatever it might be. Big hug!
Then that anniversary comes and goes (another horrible day) but thereafter it has become your new normal and in fact you discover how in some tiny ways things aren't quite as dreadful as they were a year ago, although they are still the most dreadful thing ever in their entirety. So it might be that you remember you couldn't eat a thing back then but now you can, or that you felt you would lose all your friends but in fact a few wonderful ones are still there. That is how it made me feel anyway and this year it is becoming 'just' another date in my calendar rather than looming on the horizon shouting 'look at me!' It's not pleasant but won't overwhelm me (I hope!)
Please be kind to yourself and allow the feelings to exist, the tears to flow - whatever it might be. Big hug!
Stan x
I cannot add any more to what these wonderful ladies have already said but just wanted to send you huge hugs xx
I cannot add any more to what these wonderful ladies have already said but just wanted to send you huge hugs xx
Thank you all for your kind words and support xxx