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Crusheddreams

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January 2025

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We received the knock in January 2023, and after several hearings that were cancelled, sentencing is now expected in two weeks. My OH had his probation interview via video call at home. I was in the room for most of it, and during the interview, a lot of information came to light about what he had said to the decoy that he hadn’t told me. The probation officer had the chat logs in front of them and was quoting some of the messages. From the parts they were quoting it seems the conversation was more explicit than he’d admitted and also went on much longer. He’d also shared a significant amount of personal contact information with the decoy. I feel like I’ve lost the little trust that did remain, and my heart is breaking all over again. Is there any way I can access the chat logs/evidence myself to understand the full extent of what was said? Will they read them out in the court at sentencing?

Posted Tue January 14, 2025 5:13pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

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Hi,

you can request full disclosure. Your OH would have to request that you have this from his solicitor.
I didn't do this as I was heavily pregnant by the time he was in court and to be honest I don't think anything I could have read would have been worse than what I had already thought he had said.

Things came out about six weeks after sentencing that I wasn't aware of and that was quite traumatic but I don't know if it would have caused me more harm had I known before giving birth.

Its a big decision to make and only you know what you may be able to handle at this time. Ask him for full disclosure and maybe go from there xxx

Posted Wed January 15, 2025 9:56amReport post

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