What about my children
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If my OH is telling the truth I'm not that naive I know it isn't a definite but if he is and what we've heard from officer sounds like that's all they have seen.
He has accessed pictures of teens in bikinis their own photos from socials or pictures selling products from websites things he didn't think illegal as over 16 and let's not forget Sam fox was topless at 16 not that long ago.
If it is true my kids are going through actual hell everyday. We are having to sell their home. They are terrified of the media. They have their lives on hold waiting. They can't alone with their dad (who has been alone with them for 19 years). The remainder of their childhood is over because of the timescales involved. They are able to publish things that will make it sound like their dad is a peadophile their address will be given out. They will suffer from bullying.
And all of this means they will be far more of a victim of this than any other child. How is that fair. Why are they able to keep everyone waiting and publish addresses. Leave families with no money. Why dont they have to meet timelines that are fair.
Im not saying he is blame free I'm furious at him some days I hate him for what he has done to our lives
He has accessed pictures of teens in bikinis their own photos from socials or pictures selling products from websites things he didn't think illegal as over 16 and let's not forget Sam fox was topless at 16 not that long ago.
If it is true my kids are going through actual hell everyday. We are having to sell their home. They are terrified of the media. They have their lives on hold waiting. They can't alone with their dad (who has been alone with them for 19 years). The remainder of their childhood is over because of the timescales involved. They are able to publish things that will make it sound like their dad is a peadophile their address will be given out. They will suffer from bullying.
And all of this means they will be far more of a victim of this than any other child. How is that fair. Why are they able to keep everyone waiting and publish addresses. Leave families with no money. Why dont they have to meet timelines that are fair.
Im not saying he is blame free I'm furious at him some days I hate him for what he has done to our lives
I'm so sorry you and your children are in this situation. Unfortunately these images are absolutely flooded across completely legal mainstream apps, messaging and websites, so it's happening to more people that you'd think. Have you spoken to anyone from the helpline? Do you and your children have anyone else supporting you?
As far as I understand images are categorised and only certain ones that meet the category are deemed iioc. Someone from the forum may be able to point you to the relevant page CPS etc for descriptions of the categories. Unfortunately the law is black and white anyone under 18 is a child. If you were to post digitally those images of Sam Fox from when she was 16.....this would be illegal. Even though she's now an adult herself. I believe (although im no expert) images of teens in bikinis etc (not nude) aren't classed as ioc unless there is any conversation or context to go with it that makes it indecent; but the details of how you prove that either way im not clear on.
As far as I understand images are categorised and only certain ones that meet the category are deemed iioc. Someone from the forum may be able to point you to the relevant page CPS etc for descriptions of the categories. Unfortunately the law is black and white anyone under 18 is a child. If you were to post digitally those images of Sam Fox from when she was 16.....this would be illegal. Even though she's now an adult herself. I believe (although im no expert) images of teens in bikinis etc (not nude) aren't classed as ioc unless there is any conversation or context to go with it that makes it indecent; but the details of how you prove that either way im not clear on.
I went through hell, as did my children when the case went across social media and the press 6 weeks after sentencing. I didn't understand why either until I spoke to an officer about it. She said that anyone who is convicted of these sorts of crimes is under suspicion of having contact offended. They publish the details to see if anyone comes forward to say they've been physically abused by the person. In my ex's case they were CONVINCED someone would come forward but they had no evidence of such a crime. I was CONVINCED no one would. In the end, no one did and I can honestly say, everyone knew what he'd done in his home town and way beyond. In a months time, I think I'll be going through all this for a second time with my children's father due in court for sentencing for a second time round. I'm terrified. I hate that they have to announce it to everyone, his photo, name, age, crimes, sentence, details and the road we all lived in as a family. It's honestly too much to bear. X
I don't know the circumstances of your case, but plenty don't hit the media. For your children's sake I would be really careful with adopting a "My life is over / Their lives are over" narrative. It isn't, honestly it isn't, and they absolutely need to hear that from you as the adult. I had some spectacularly awful things happen to me in the first 18 years of my life - including my mother being investigated for murdering my stepfather when I was 17! It was tough, but at no point was my life 'over', and no adult in my life ever thought it was. It isn't over now either.
Re plenty not hitting the media, that came from the perspective barrister in my 'case' and was regarding IIOC. She says there are so so many cases now that the lower level ones are ten a penny & just not that interesting. I was also surprised to see that our local police force doesn't seem to bother putting up IIOC only cases on their social media - the sex offences are all contact.
The police publish them on social media and we live in a small village where everyone knows everyone