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Nicnac29

Member since
June 2022

7 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2025 9:05pmReport post

Hello

I just wondered if anyone had any advice about housing for young people please?

My son is currently under investigation accused of inciting an under age child to send photos over a course of a weekend chat on snap chat. (He denies this and says he believed her to be the same age as him, 16 at the time, and said he never saw a pic of her face, the photos were sent back and forth playing a game of truth or dare).



However as part of his bail conditions he isn't allowed to reside anywhere where children under 16 are and we have younger children.



He is currently staying with his dad (my ex husband) but he is due to move miles away across the country at the end of the month and can't/wont take my son.

I have no family and no one who can take my son in.



Has anyone else been in this position?

Thankyou

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

820 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2025 10:15pmReport post

Oh Nicnac what an awful situation for you to be in. My situation is different to yours because we had no young children living at home when my son had to move back in with us.

I have a family member who provides a foster home accommodation to young people of 16+ years through social services so it maybe worth contacting SS to see if they can help find somewhere suitable for your son.

I am also aware that there is sheltered accommodation for young people of 16+ in my local area which again I think is accessed through social services.

Lifeisover

Member since
January 2025

38 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2025 10:22pmReport post

I feel so bad for you that is awful. How can it be in the public interest to prosecute your son

Nicnac29

Member since
June 2022

7 posts

Posted Thu January 16, 2025 11:07pmReport post

Thankyou so much. It's ripping my heart out. I feel utterly powerless, the thought of him going into care of any kind kills me. It's like the worst kind of grief.

Starr

Member since
December 2024

30 posts

Posted Fri January 17, 2025 10:50amReport post

This is so awful. I feel for you all. I hope you find a resolution.

Scared to Death

Member since
November 2024

14 posts

Posted Fri January 17, 2025 1:27pmReport post

Hello,

what an awful situation for you.

cant you apply/argue to have the bail conditions changed? I know someone who successfully did this as they had a sibling living in their home who was under 14

Their son was able to remain living at home.



good luck xx

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

372 posts

Posted Fri January 17, 2025 2:56pmReport post

I am so sorry that you and your son find yourself in this difficult situation.

It may be worth speaking to the charity 'Just for Kids' Law to explore the possible options that are available to you and your son.

Have you also spoken to the Stop it Now helpline they may be able to help or signpost you to someone that can?

Thinking of you and your son.

Starr

Member since
December 2024

30 posts

Posted Fri January 17, 2025 5:40pmReport post

Some really good advice - I would definitely take professional advice..youth justice is meant to all be about 'child first' - I appreciate the police are focused on risk but your son is still a vulnerable child. Stay strong x

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

215 posts

Posted Sun January 19, 2025 3:12pmReport post

I'm so sorry you are in this situation, we where too and my son leaved with my parents for 5 months till the conditions were dropped. Have you explained to the investigating officer and see if they can hurry the polimary checks so the conditions can be dropped. Basically they just needed to check there ws no images of my younger children and that they were not at risk and then it changed to RUI and not bailed with conditions.