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WorriedAndConfused

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November 2024

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Posted Sat January 18, 2025 10:36amReport post

On the day of the knock, one of the officers (I assume OIC) kept saying "accidentally stumbled across" and "didn't go looking"

at the time my mind was all over the place and it never crossed my mind to ask why that was said.



could this mean it's part of a bigger investigation into the person who sent my OH the images? Has he just been caught up in it? He was sent IIOC amongst adult p&rn images.



Sorry for rambling on. I'm still trying to make sense of everything (Knock was almost a year ago)

edel2020

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March 2022

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Posted Sat January 18, 2025 10:56amReport post

They might have been investigating another person who sent the images to him and found his details that way. That is how Huw Edwards was caught.

WorriedAndConfused

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November 2024

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Posted Sat January 18, 2025 1:34pmReport post

I'm trying to find hope in this madness. Hopefully they take the fact he wasn't wanting it etc into consideration

mum1982H

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September 2022

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Posted Sun January 19, 2025 9:22amReport post

At the knock for my OH they did mention another investigation and this is where they have his details from. I'm assuming it's the person mentioned in his bail conditions not to contact(ss accidentally read out the name assuming it were me) turned out he had been having intimate conversations with another woman for 2 years(that's also shattered my trust).

When they called to explain he had had not been charged but devices were being sent for forensics, they only took his devices despite the 8 other personal devices owned by myself and grown up children. they mentioned links or porn sent(from or too him I don't know) that seemed "regular" but that maybe from a site known for iioc.

I find it hard to believe based on that alone they would arrest him and give such harsh bail conditions that he's gonna miss the birth and first year of his child's life. He keeps assuring me they will not find anything on his devices.

All I know is whatever he has done to cause this, it's absolutely broken me.

WorriedAndConfused

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November 2024

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Posted Sun January 19, 2025 4:18pmReport post

It's horrific to deal with. So many questions and no real answers. My OH is allowed to stay at home as that's part of his bail that he must stay at this address. I have to supervise at all times (we have kids under 18). As much as I'm happy to have him here the trust is something I struggle with.

FromTheAshes

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January 2025

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Posted Mon January 20, 2025 9:07pmReport post

Hey Worried,

Just a question - how is your husband allowed to stay at your address if you have to supervise him at all times?

It just shows how it is so different. They told me he couldn't sleep at our house as I couldn't supervise at all times if I slept.

Not that I want him to be here. But it's maddening how different it seems to be.

Sending light.

X

WorriedAndConfused

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November 2024

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Posted Mon January 20, 2025 10:31pmReport post

It surprised me. It's because his court bail states this address and he must stay here. I have a very detailed safety plan and as he works nights that helps greatly too

it's such a minefield isn't it. The last SW didn't want him staying at the house, which would have put him in breach of his conditions. It's a scary and confusion situation

FromTheAshes

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January 2025

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Posted Tue January 21, 2025 12:58pmReport post

A literal minefield.

No consistency in advice and constant worry you're doing something wrong

rainyday52

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April 2023

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Posted Tue January 21, 2025 6:21pmReport post

In our son's early days he was so worried he'd do something wrong that he messaged the OIC several times about how to interpret the couple of sentences on his bail sheet. His messages were usually ignored but he then sent a polite reminder he needed an answer to one of them and the response was that he was obviously thinking of breaching the conditions and therefore the OIC had instructed our local police to make random checks on our house. That really scared me, not because we were doing anything wrong but the idea of a police car pulling up and police officers at the door was very upsetting. She also copied a huge chunk of text about bail, obviously taken from some training manual and full of legal jargon and emailed that to our son.

Of course it was all hot air and never happened, obviously kicking back at our son for daring to point out her mistake in not replying when an oops, sorry would have done the trick!

Edited Tue January 21, 2025 7:43pm