Family and Friends Forum

i don’t want to give identifying details but need to be on here because I don’t know anyone else in this situation. Nearly 2 years ago my ex (we split due to this) was arrested after a sting by a vigilante group. He refused and still refuses to allow anyone to tell me anything, I’ve found out what I know as it’s become public domain. He’s been charged with attempted sexual communication with a child and attempting to meet a child after grooming. I’m disgusted with him and will never take him back. Our children don’t see him as social services have advised against it and basically said that if I allow direct contact my ability/willingness to protect them will be questioned. I’m now awaiting the trial and the potential unwanted media attention if reporters are there. In my job it will be awful, at least initially if everyone finds out. I don’t feel I can tell people openly why we split and I think some people think I’ve kicked him out for no good reason. How do others deal with the stigma? Family have said I have nothing to be ashamed of but reading the comments that went with the Facebook coverage of the sting (miraculously very few people I know saw that) I think people will judge. I feel like I’m not being honest with friends and people who say they get what it’s like to be a single mum etc, though well meaning, just don’t know what it’s been like. I’m still in limbo until a conclusion is reached then the kids will have all the upset of his reintroduction at some point in some way. It just sucks and he’s not even sorry. He’s never apologised or tried to make amends.