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Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

64 posts

Posted Sun January 26, 2025 2:15pmReport post

We received charges yesterday. We both read the letter and it's a lot worse than we thought. All categories of images. If my partner pleads not guilty he'll have to go to a higher court. My stomach is in knots and I feel terrified and hopeless. My partner is struggling as well. I don't know how to cope and can't imagine life going forward.

We were just starting to plan a future with a house and children, and this has completely pulled the rug from under our feet.

Lifeisover

Member since
January 2025

97 posts

Posted Sun January 26, 2025 2:22pmReport post

If the images are there what is the chance of being found not guilty. This is something I think about a lot. Is the pain worth it? What does your husband say about them being there? It's so hard not to be cross with them and the world and the system. I can see my husband is truly broken but sometimes I feel so hard done to and hurt xx

Edited Sun January 26, 2025 2:23pm

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

508 posts

Posted Sun January 26, 2025 2:29pmReport post

Do you have a solicitor to advise what you should do? Many of these cases are men who plead guilty even if they feel that some of the charges aren't fair to get it all over with, but a solicitor who knows the whole story and has seen all the evidence will be able to advise if it's worth going higher with a 'not guilty' plea. Crown court is certainly a different kettle of fish but your person shouldn't plead guilty if he is adamant that he wasn't and has good solid proof......but sometimes it's a trade-off coupled with a gamble knowing what to do. Also personal finances come into it unless you qualify for legal aid - very unfair imo but sadly true. Good luck with deciding what to do and do come back here for moral support. It will soon be over for you both xx

Edited Sun January 26, 2025 2:33pm

Ocean13

Member since
April 2024

64 posts

Posted Sun January 26, 2025 3:36pmReport post

We have a solicitor but can't speak to them until tomorrow since we received it on a weekend. There is definitely at least one of the charges is specific that my partner explained and is very unfair that he is being charged for it because it was sent to him "as a joke" and he never found it funny and was grossed out. There are certain things that lack context and make it look worse on paper which is so frustrating. Everything else is from 15 years ago. He's never been in trouble before and hasn't done anything since. I don't feel angry with him I feel sad for him as I truly love him and know what a kind sensitive person he is.

I'm terrified of what our future will be and can't imagine how we can have a normal happy life and it breaks my heart.