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SoTired

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Posted Sun January 26, 2025 11:34pmReport post

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SoTired

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Lifeisover

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Posted Sun January 26, 2025 11:51pmReport post

Please don't do this to yourself.



Statistics don't mean anything when looking at an individual.



Maybe talk to him about how he is feeling etc.

It sounds like you have started to feel normal and it has made your brain trigger the ptsd to protect you.

SoTired

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 12:03amReport post

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PrairieMom

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 2:30amReport post

I'm a sucker for a good research article, so I couldn't resist reading your links.

My understanding from the first article is that indirect offending against children is more in line with illegal images of children than it is with direct contact. I would think this would be a good thing for many people in this group whose persons have been convicted of communicating with children online. My interpretation is that the risk of them moving to direct offending is much lower than currently estimated.

The second link, the PowerPoint, seemed biased to me. For example, the small sample only included persons with extreme pornography in their collection. But then they generalize it to all iioc offenders. I think I saw in the first link that extreme pornography was proposed as an indicator of risk.

Something I find interesting is that in my country there is a lot of weight put onto the gender of the victim. People who offend against boys are seen as a much higher risk than people who offend against girls. Neither of the above articles seem to mention that at all. I'm not sure why, or which is correct, i just find it interesting.

Thanks for sharing the articles. I'm sorry that you're struggling after all this time. I would continue to focus on the positive actions your person is taking . All you can do is keep communication open in case they struggle in the future so they know they can come to you for help.

I Hope you feel better soon. Take care.

Edited Mon January 27, 2025 2:33am

Smile through tears

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September 2021

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 4:20amReport post

Hi - just talk to him - don't bottle it up - bless you these blips certainly come out the blue.

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SoTired

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 7:36amReport post

Thanks ladies, given my head a wobble this morning!

Lonely & Bewildered

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 8:12amReport post

Hi

I didn't actually see the original post but by the title I'm guessing it's about reoffending. This is my BIGGEST worry and this is always on my mind.

We often talk about my worry around this but it's always there,

take care x

LittleRobin3

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April 2024

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 9:22amReport post

Hi, I can't see the original post but couldn't scroll by without commenting.
My ex husband went to prison for IIOC first offence. It tore our family apart. We divorced fairly early on but I supported him.
I believed he would NEVER put my son and I through all this again. Approximately 3 years after his release, he reoffended. Same thing, in fact, slightly less. He's due to be sentenced in 2 weeks. First time round I felt destroyed. But there's been something about the length of time it's taken this time round (3 years) that has broken me physically and mentally. I have learned that I cannot trust him at all. I cannot rely on him even though he's all I've got apart from my son. However, I really don't think he would ever contact offend or try to communicate. I believe this because sitting behind his keyboard late at night fits him perfectly. I really wish I'd had the strength and courage to walk away the first time round. X

LittleRobin3

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 9:30amReport post

PrairieMom,

Regarding the gender of the victims, when you say an offender is much more dangerous if they offend against males, which offences do you mean? With IIOC, they often arrive as a bundle, from what I understand. From what I've read and conversations I've had with the Police, men who look at IIOC, rarely escalate their offending to contact or communication. My ex wouldn't say boo to a Goose so downloading images is easy for him. Sometimes I hate the internet and also, "smart" phones.

edel2020

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March 2022

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 10:57amReport post

This thing about those with male victims supposedly being more 'dangerous' is a hangover from the pre internet days. It really applies to contact offences only.

The way that porn works now, is that an addict will look at all sorts of extreme material, because it is so easy to find, but whether they would do anything offline is a completely different matter. The stats for reoffending among image offenders suggest hardly any progress to contact offending.

LittleRobin3

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 12:07pmReport post

Edel2020, thanks, that's what I thought.

PrairieMom

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 1:57pmReport post

Hi Little Robin,

The tool I'm referring to is called the CPORT. Child pornography online risk tool. It's specifically for iioc offenders risk of re-offending. 2/7 risk indicators are about having more male than female contact. Re-offending includes viewing iioc again.

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SoTired

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March 2021

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Posted Mon January 27, 2025 11:23pmReport post

Thanks everyone, and the summation of the reports was so comprehensive. At the time I wasn't taking it in myself but had worked myself into a blind panic.



However, since that point in my doom scrolling, I have come across which makes interesting reading re use of SOR and SHPO for young offenders if anyone is interested

https://barrowcadbury.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/05/young-people-SOR-report-final-1.pdf

x

edel2020

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March 2022

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Posted Tue January 28, 2025 11:32amReport post

SoTired

This is a really good piece of research, looking at an area which is often overlooked. Although I can't help thinking that a lot of the criticism, e.g. about the impact of court delays, is just as applicable to adults as it is to children.