Is it just me
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Is it just me, or does anyone else just feel this overwhelming sense of isolation since they got the knock for their person?
Like he has mine and his families full support with his recovery. And I know I have him and he will listen to whatever I need to say, his family again great and I'm really close with them and I know I can talk to them. My family other than my parents have all turned their back on me for sticking by him and said awful things about me in the process, and I'm really socially awkward so making friends doesn't come easy. The few friends I have are great but it just feels like noone understands it from my point of view. Does that make any sense or is that a really selfish way of looking at it? As I said my partner and his family have been amazing and if I said anything to them I know they'd all try to understand but I just don't think they can. Does that make any sense?
Like he has mine and his families full support with his recovery. And I know I have him and he will listen to whatever I need to say, his family again great and I'm really close with them and I know I can talk to them. My family other than my parents have all turned their back on me for sticking by him and said awful things about me in the process, and I'm really socially awkward so making friends doesn't come easy. The few friends I have are great but it just feels like noone understands it from my point of view. Does that make any sense or is that a really selfish way of looking at it? As I said my partner and his family have been amazing and if I said anything to them I know they'd all try to understand but I just don't think they can. Does that make any sense?
Yes, it makes sense - I understand. I live in that world of isolation with only me standing by my son. Many support me but I think many comments are passed behind my back, not in a nasty way as I know my family love me.
he is very lucky to have so much support from his side of the family and sad you are not getting much, that must hurt. But remember opinions can change and people suffer immense shock with this journey. Give them time......
I feel the only people that fully understand are on this fantastic life saving forum.
he is very lucky to have so much support from his side of the family and sad you are not getting much, that must hurt. But remember opinions can change and people suffer immense shock with this journey. Give them time......
I feel the only people that fully understand are on this fantastic life saving forum.
Yes, the isolation is unbearable, you're not alone x
Hi, yes, absolutely. I'm almost completely isolated. Although we divorced fairly early on, I supported him. As soon as we divorced, his family turned their backs on me but they support him. All my friends disappeared when they found out. I used to hate spending time alone. Now it's just my son and I. We have no one else. I can't bear to be around anyone because I simply don't trust them. I have carers visit me everyday to help me shower etc as I'm chronically sick and I have to put on a front every day. They've all met my ex because their paths have crossed when they've been here. He reoffended and is due back in court for sentencing in 12 days. I'm terrified of people finding out. I've tried to avoid people as much as I can but it's not been possible to do so completely though I really wish it were. X
Nope. I feel completely isolated and lonely too
I just can't seem to shake myself out of it, honestly if I didn't have to leave the house to take the children to school I fear that I would never leave the house.
You are definately not alone, i've been there too. We're now 16 months post sentencing and it's only recently I've felt able to contact a close friend or 2 and suggest meeting up for a coffee/lunch.
You are not on your own it's been 2 years since the case is closed and I can't even think about telling my friends I feel like they will judge me only my family know and his brother and sister knows that's it .
Yes, I think it's partially to do with how we are made to feel. They do the offence and we are made to feel isolated and guilty his family are standing by him and if I ask them for support or mention what he's done I just get told we don't want to discuss it Or let's just wait and see what happens And God forbid if I mention leaving him, I'm not supporting him anymore. I may feel like the worst person in the world
Yes, I think it's partially to do with how we are made to feel. They do the offence and we are made to feel isolated and guilty his family are standing by him and if I ask them for support or mention what he's done I just get told we don't want to discuss it Or let's just wait and see what happens And God forbid if I mention leaving him, I'm not supporting him anymore. I may feel like the worst person in the world